10 rules of the French working momsBy Pictolic https://pictolic.com/en/article/10-rules-of-the-french-working-moms
All who have children, wish they slept at night, without hysterics took the word "no", well behaved in the hotel and the restaurants and were eating what they cook. And it would be good, did all it not only under her mother's strict guidance, but also independently. Because mommy's got to go to work, or is it already out, or even from work did not leave.
The author of the absolute bestseller "French children don't spit food" American Pamela Druckerman proved that to deal with most parental nightmares are excellent for French methods of education.
Exclusive tips from a successful writer and mom of three children in our material. And as a bonus — the recipe Paris dessert which is loved by children of any age.
1. Rule one: the perfect mom does not exist
And do not take the child a child as the beginning of a marathon, the finish of which is the University. The French, of course, want their children to be successful, but they don't try in the evenings after work to get the child strides to pass through natural stages of development. For example, to read and write a child is not taught to six years. French women think it is more important to the school to teach toddler skills such as concentration, sociability and self-control. First, it does not require any special times, and is simply an integral part of the process of education. And secondly, these abilities, not the skill in three years to count to a hundred and back, to create a strong base for the child's success in school.
2. The second rule: you always must provide your own source of income
This position is extremely pragmatic and there is not a drop of French romance, but it really helps to live.
3. Rule three: it is impossible to devote his entire life to the child
To maintain balance in the family it is imperative that some part of life was only yours, belonged only to you. It may be work, although not necessarily. It can be any hobby or socializing with friends — whatever it is, I don't know, growing orchids. The French are deeply convinced that if you devote all your time to the baby if your world revolves around him, it is very harmful and may even be dangerous, primarily for children.
4. The fourth rule: from time to time keeping away from the child, you become a better mother
It is important to understand that this is not some radical position. In no case did not appeal to Russian women to immediately drop everything, go away for three weeks at a Spa resort, engage yourself and forget about the baby. Talking about how to quietly admit: if you spend all the time together with someone — no matter how much you love each other, you will sooner or later begin each other to be annoying. And it's not all about you, it equally applies to your child.
How effective this simple rule from time to time to enjoy each other, I literally just experienced. We with one of my five year old twins last week, was on holiday with my mum. She took him somewhere for two or three hours, and when we met again — we were so happy to see each other, we had something to share. Short of separation, make the relationship fresh! It is always a new experience, it's a breath of mountain air, a source of energy. And this is a necessary condition for the strength of any human relationship, including the relationship of mother and child.
5. Rule five: forget about the guilt
6. Rule six: do not become a "mom-taxi"
7. Rule the seventh: in a relationship parents there is a part in which the child is not involved
8. Rule eight: do not ask husband's equal participation in household chores and childcare
This does not mean that men do not do anything. French mothers believe that family conflicts will be less if everyone has their chores, though unequal to the effort and time. Do not demand from her husband more than he is willing to do for you. Better hire a housekeeper coming and Sami once again have sex.
9. Rule nine: night — time adults and one weekend per month — your "honeymoon weekend"
The rest of the time French parents are very strictly monitored to ensure that children went to bed at the same time. After the evening tale or lullaby the baby should be in bed. "Adult time" — not with the hard-won rare privilege, no, it's a basic human need, the parental right, if you want. The French are convinced that the key to a happy family — happy and loving parents. Sincerely explain this to my kids — they will understand.
10. The tenth rule: the boss is you
Of course, this is difficult. It is a daily struggle. I'm still every day over and over again gaining his small army. But I now know that children develop better within clearly established boundaries. They feel much more confident and relaxed when you know that the pilot is an adult. Learn how at key moments strictly and confidently say "no." Learn to calmly but firmly tell the children that you are going to do. You'll know immediately when you succeed you feel like a boss.
11. Favorite children's recipe from Paris
Here is the recipe pear and banana puree straight from Paris.
Purée de Poire et Banane
2 large or 3 small soft pears 2 bananas juice of half a lemon ¼ Cup water
Wash and peel pears and bananas. Cut them into pieces. In a medium size saucepan boil them with lemon juice and water for 15-20 minutes on low heat. Periodically stir with a spoon. Remove the mixture from the heat and let it cool for a few minutes. Ready mixture pour into small cups. Cover with lids and refrigerate until serving.