What is mammy kink, and why motherhood and care excite

There are many sexual fetishes that excite some and perplex others. DDLG (daddy dom and little girl) games are well known, in which a caring “daddy” plays a key role. But “mummy kink” plots, with diametrically opposed distribution of roles, have only recently attracted public attention. Why has motherhood become so exciting these days?

The term "mummy kink" refers to a sexual game for two, in which one takes on the role of "mom" - the dominant figure, and the other - the submissive role of the "baby". It is already known that the fetish is especially popular among gay female couples. But it also attracts heterosexual men who are attracted to female dominance, with an emphasis on care.

US journalist and director Laura Holliday conducted her own investigation. She talked to people who practice mommy kink and found out what attracted them to this fetish and how they came to it. The stories turned out to be very different, but common lines are clearly visible in them.

25-year-old Chicago resident Georgine said that the main thing for her in mommy kink is care. This is exactly what the woman lacked in childhood.

Miss Jean, a 27-year-old dominatrix, has carefully studied the issue and tried to figure out what motivates her clients. Many of them are fully established self-sufficient individuals, but they are attracted by maternal care.

Director Vex Ashley went even further. She made the film “Maman,” in which erotica is intertwined with a very serious study of issues of motherhood and sex. The author also paid attention to such an important point as education. She believes that it is there that one should look for answers to most questions. She also believes that playing “mommy and baby” is equally important for both the dominant and the submissive.

Vex Ashley believes that the popularity of the fetish is associated with the difficult socio-political situation in the world. Now many people want to feel like little children, protected from shocks. Care and comfort are contrasted with the big cruel world.

The figure of the mother has been sexualized before. Everyone remembers how popular milfs were in pop culture in the 2000s. This image evoked mixed feelings. The hot mom is a taboo role, not a fusion of two elements of femininity. But the mother is caring and gentle - this is a completely different scenario.

According to Ashley, the appeal of mommy kink is that anyone, regardless of gender, sexual orientation or life circumstances, can try themselves in the role of a mother. Perhaps someone cannot or does not dare to become a mother in real life. And this is relevant not only for queer people who reproduce certain gender roles. Ashley explains this with her own example:

It is also worth noting that age-related sexual games have nothing to do with pedophilia. Being attracted to mommy kink has nothing to do with being attracted to children. It is an exchange of power between two consenting adults.