Unfulfilled miracle: bitter revelations of spouses who survived the loss of unborn babiesBy Pictolic https://pictolic.com/article/unfulfilled-miracle-bitter-revelations-of-spouses-who-survived-the-loss-of-unborn-babies.html
Unfortunately, many families are experiencing the bitterness of losing an expected child. It happens that the life that is born under the heart suddenly ends for various reasons. The unfulfilled dream of becoming parents torments the soul for a long time, but over time the spouses find the strength to cope with grief and move on. Read the stories of couples who have experienced the loss of unborn babies, further in our material.The death of a child is the worst thing that can happen in the life of parents. The death of an unborn child is a tragedy for a family that is waiting for its birth. Unfortunately, many women lose babies for various reasons, and the heartache torments them for a long time. We will tell the stories of spouses who have experienced unsuccessful pregnancies, but were able to cope with grief and live on with the hope of a miracle.
37-year-old Jeg Ashley never imagined that she would survive the pain of losing a child after giving birth to two sons. With her 35-year-old husband, Ricky, they found out that they were expecting their third baby last year, and immediately began to prepare for replenishment in the family.
At the 17th week of pregnancy, Jeg began to feel the baby pushing. Soon the movements stopped, and Zhenina began to suspect something was wrong. She noticed that her stomach had stopped growing, but everyone around her calmed her down, saying that the baby had just changed position.
Returning home, Jeg tried her best to gather herself for the sake of her two eldest sons, but the feeling of emptiness inside burned. The hardest thing for her was the lack of moral support, so now she wants to help other women who are faced with the same trouble.
Ricky blames himself for not being able to provide his wife with the necessary emotional support. He was in a lot of pain himself, and he kept this pain to himself. The couple say that their older children helped them to survive the bitter loss.
Zoe Clark-Coates has survived five pregnancies that ended in miscarriages. After that, she and her husband Andy founded the charity foundation The Mariposa Trust.
The couple from Birmingham found out about their first pregnancy when they were 32 years old. Unfortunately, the child was not destined to be born. Soon Zoey got pregnant again, but on the third or fourth ultrasound they were informed that their baby was dead. A week later, the woman gave birth to her at home and named her Darcy. Another loss hurt the failed parents. Zoey and Andy started trying to conceive a child again. The third baby also died in the womb.
The woman doubted whether to try again, but the fourth time was successful, and they had a daughter Esme Emilia Promis, who is now 11 years old. The daughter gave the couple hope, and two years later they decided to have another child. Soon Zoey became pregnant. She regularly underwent examinations and ultrasound, but this pregnancy was not successful. The woman underwent surgery, and the couple once again painfully experienced the loss of the baby.
In addition, the British woman was found to have stones and an infection in the gallbladder. Soon she lost one of the twins, daughter Isabella. Doctors said that the woman needs to have an operation on the gallbladder, otherwise she risks her life and the life of the second baby in the womb. The operation was successful, and soon a second live girl was born — Bronte, who is now 8 years old.
Each of the losses was equally hard for the spouses. Andy constantly supported his wife, although it was not easy for him either.
36-year-old Zara and her husband, 41-year-old Lex, knew that they would be able to conceive a child only by artificial insemination. The woman suffered from a severe form of endometriosis for many years, but in 2015 the couple decided to have a baby. They were over the moon with happiness when the first attempt at artificial insemination was crowned with success, and in early 2016, son Jax was born.
Two years later, the couple wanted to give their son a brother or sister, and decided on a second attempt at IVF. Zara became pregnant, but after a while ultrasound images showed that their baby was seriously ill, and the woman needed to have an abortion. The world collapsed. It turned out that most of the child's organs had developed from the outside, and his existence was incompatible with life. On October 26, 2018, the couple said goodbye to their unborn son.
A few months later Zara and Lex decided to try to have another child. Their hopes of replenishing the family ended with another pain after a miscarriage.
The following summer, the couple flew to Malibu with their son Jax. There they got married, organizing a small beach ceremony. The mother and her son wrote Jesse's name in the sand.
The doctor prescribed pills to the woman. Two weeks later, Zara woke up on the bed covered in blood. Her husband and son were sleeping next to her. Lex immediately took his wife to the hospital, where she lost consciousness. It turned out that the pills caused bleeding— a rare side effect of the drug.
Now the couple do not know whether they will be able to decide on another pregnancy. Zara hopes that her story will help other women to speak their pain out loud, relieving their condition.
Lex says he felt helpless for a long time after losing Jesse. Men try to hide emotions deep inside, but this can turn into panic attacks, as it happened with him. Only work helped Lex to recover and get out of a gloomy state.
Love and a firm belief in the best can work wonders. Doctors advised the model Elizaveta Bulokhova to have an abortion when she was diagnosed with cancer, but the woman decided to give birth, and a wonderful boy was born.