From sadomasochism to spitting: sexual priorities of young people through the eyes of writers

If a few decades ago they didn't talk about sex out loud, now they are trumpeting about it at every step. With the advent of the Internet, people got easy access to taboo content, and this changed the thinking of the younger generation. Teenagers begin to get acquainted with porn films immediately after graduating from elementary school, and young people are increasingly interested in extreme types of sex. 

Unfortunately, sometimes dangerous sexual games lead to sad consequences. Two British writers shared their thoughts about the attitude of the modern generation to sex, and came to ambiguous conclusions.

Probably everyone remembers how he hid his eyes during a candid bed scene when watching a movie with his parents. Anything more daring than a quick crawl under the covers or a missionary pose was considered very risky. But times have changed. Now many young people consider extreme sex to be the norm. This, according to researchers, leads to the influence of the Network.

Hashtags with the names of hard sex varieties prevail on various sites, including Pinterest, Instagram and Tumblr. All users have access to this content, including 13-year-olds (this is the age limit for creating an account).

Two British writers of the new generation shared their thoughts about sex. Here are their conclusions about modern views on intimate life.

29-year-old Rebecca Manning-Reid lives in London. For the first time she saw porn after graduating from elementary school on a friend's computer. It was in the early 2000s. In adolescence, she and her friends often watched erotic films, not so much for excitement as for interest. Nevertheless, watching "strawberries" greatly influenced how teenagers began to develop their sexuality.

Rebecca and her friends started epilation of intimate areas earlier than it was necessary. The way they got their first sexual experience was also very different from the stories of their older friends. Previously, young people received information from magazines and gossip, and modern teenagers have much more sources. The writer says that they imitated porn actors and searched adult websites in search of recommendations.

Boys and girls did not try to carefully explore the intimate sphere, but immediately rushed into battle. Rebecca couldn't understand why during oral sex guys held her by the hair on one side. Then she realized that it was a trick from porn movies - to open her face so that it could be clearly seen in the frame.

Easy access to something always makes the object of lust less attractive. Since sex gradually ceased to be a stigma and became available, young people began to look for thrills in the sexual extreme, wanting to make lovemaking more impressive and exciting.

Rebecca has been into BDSM for 10 years, starting similar experiments when she just turned 18. She spent many nights in fetish clubs, dressing in corsets and latex underwear. Among her acquaintances there were many business ladies who were engaged in business during the day, and in the evenings they came to the hot spots to be spanked, spit on or even strangled. There were also well-mannered men who would never offend a woman in everyday life, but for whom all the rules of propriety disappeared during sex.

Actions that used to be characteristic only for BDSM fans - strictly regulated and imbued with good manners and consent - are now widespread among ordinary youth. If a sexual partner is against experimenting in bed, he can easily find a replacement on a dating site or chat online with a webcam model who will fulfill all desires on video.

During the transition from one generation to another, a certain change of mindset is quite normal. Rebecca's husband, her eldest by 10 years, saw porn for the first time in a magazine that changed hands among a whole group of friends. The writer herself had access to hardcore porn with just one mouse click.

But Rebecca believes that there are a lot of positive things about sex in 2020. People with non-traditional orientation can lead a rich sexual life, getting to know each other in certain groups on social networks. Society is becoming softer towards fetishists and women who have many lovers. But at the same time, there are more and more cases when sexual games end sadly. Recreating extreme porn in real life is becoming the standard, which means that modern youth has not yet solved the sexual problem.

29-year-old Stina Sanders from London says that the days of the missionary pose are long gone. The new generation loves experiments and even practices strangulation. Recent studies have proven that the Network pushes girls to a dangerous sexual experience. Porn films showing sadomadochism and strangulation are available to everyone, so it's not surprising that young people are interested in this.

The writer believes that when a man grabs her by the throat during sexual intercourse, it is normal if he agreed with her. The girl admits that without watching porn movies, she would not have learned about some fetishes. Stina started watching "strawberry" when she turned 20, together with her boyfriend. They studied new things together and embodied sexual fantasies. Over time, the writer identified her favorite fetishes: anal sex, choking and spitting, but she also loves gentle, sensual sex.

Many of Stina's friends admitted that they also like suffocation and the feeling of pain during sex. Fetishes change when it comes to satisfaction. Spitting is a new phenomenon in the writer's social circle. Despite the fact that it may seem humiliating, such a fetish can really turn on those who like to obey. The British woman does not know why her generation became so perverted, but suspects that their parents were the same, but did not admit it openly.

You can blame social networks and porn sites for distorting sexual views, but erotic practices have always existed. The Internet has simply made it possible to expand sexual boundaries, and the modern generation can discover something new. The writer is glad that society is now more tolerant of people with certain fetishes. You can't stop those who are curious and shame them for what brings them pleasure. If everything happens between sexual partners by mutual consent and safely, then why not experiment?

Historically, it was men who were considered fetishists, but it turns out that the fair sex also have their own "points". During an anonymous survey with the participation of almost two thousand women, it was possible to find out what things, actions or places cause them sexual arousal.