10 things we need to stop romanticizing to make our life better

Very often books and magazines create a beautiful image of things that can be dangerous. For example, we are often fascinated by stories of one-sided love or difficult relationships - we are used to believing that strong feelings are always associated with intense pain. Bad guys with cynical jokes always seem very charming, and pregnancy looks like the best time in a woman's life.

Some things seem completely harmless, but according to psychologists, if we change our attitude towards them, our life will be much better. We decided to tell you about some of the things that we need to stop romanticizing.

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1. Non-reciprocal love.

Many people believe that the more difficult the relationship, the more you love this person. However, psychologists say this is not true because there is no place for constant pain in a healthy relationship. Experts see a connection between what our parents' marriage was like and how we behave as a couple.

2. Sociopathy.

Recently, filmmakers have begun to turn adorable sociopaths into protagonists in their films and TV series. You probably remember the Sherlock series, where a detective who is not very good at communication is very attractive: fans love to see him express feelings when they least expect it. But in real life, it would be very difficult to contact them, because sociopaths do not know what compassion, guilt, and love are (this is a psychological disorder when a person is antisocial and ignores social rules).

3. Loneliness.

Loneliness has always been part of the image of attractive book characters. No one in the world really understands them. This feeling of disconnection from the rest of the world can occur even when people are around you. According to the theory of neuroscientist John Cacioppo, we need loneliness in order to truly have the desire to maintain relationships with other people. But this feeling is good only when it is temporary.

4. Bad guys.

The tale of Belle, who was able to turn the Beast into a prince with her love, and Anastasia's story of 50 shades of gray, who turned a cold sadist into a passionate man are very popular plots. Bad guys like Draco Malfoy and Jim Moriarty seem extremely attractive. However, in real life, a relationship with a tyrant partner will lead to a very offensive psychological situation.

5. Bad habits.

Various addictions such as smoking, drinking alcohol, and drug use are currently fashionable. Drinking is even considered part of some cultures. The heroes of many films find themselves in funny situations when they drink. A cigarette and a glass of whiskey seem perfectly fine for a sad person. Even drugs seem romantic to people (because some artists and musicians take them). However, psychologists say that this romance leads to negative consequences because people no longer understand how dangerous their bad habits are. Even when children try to imitate adults, clinking glasses of juice, this is not a very good thing: children get used to the idea that there is no holiday without alcohol.

6. Psychological problems.

Instagram bloggers act like they're depressed. However, there is nothing attractive about depression, anorexia, or any other psychological or eating disorder. The romanticization of them in the media has led to the fact that even the smallest mistakes that people make are explained by psychological disorders: a small fear is a panic attack, and a bad mood is a depression.

7. Inability to keep the house clean.

"Creative mess" is very popular right now. However, not being able to keep your workplace or home clean can cause many problems. Scientists see a connection between procrastination and the inability to maintain order. According to experts, a cluttered home can cause depression, which only gets worse with age.

8. Pregnancy.

Pregnant women in movies and advertisements look so happy, and models and actresses show off their perfect bodies right after birth. However, psychologists warn: do not forget how different reality is from what they show us on TV and in magazines. Each situation is completely different, and of course, there are women whose pregnancy is easy. But be careful when you think that pregnancy looks so romantic or that this is the best time in a woman's life.

9. Remote worker and blogger.

Pregnant women in movies and advertisements look so happy, and models and actresses show off their perfect bodies right after birth. However, psychologists warn: do not forget how different reality is from what they show us on TV and in magazines. Each situation is completely different, and of course, there are women whose pregnancy is easy. But be careful when you think that pregnancy looks so romantic or that this is the best time in a woman's life.

10. Inability to take care of your appearance.

Popular "slight sloppiness" often turns into simple slovenliness, which is justified by the fact that "I am what I am and I do not want to change myself." According to psychologists, if a person does not want to properly take care of his appearance, this means that he is chronically unhappy with his life.