Sex with an ex: why women make love with ex-boyfriends
While some people think that you will not enter the same river twice, others succumb to temptation and again rush into the pool of passion with a former partner. A recent British study showed that out of 2,000 respondents, more than half admitted that sex with an ex-boyfriend was brighter than with a current lover. Moreover, they often imagine an ex in bed. Find out why this happens from women who have decided to rekindle the extinguished bonfire of passion once again.
Among the respondents, one in three said that they secretly wrote to an ex-lover, and half of women and a third of men admitted that they slept with exes. Four British women shared their stories about how they put feelings on repeat and had sex with men they broke up with. Here are their impressions of hot affairs.
27-year-old Georgia Carter from Bolton cheated on her current boyfriend Adam with ex-boyfriend Lee. The idea did not lead to anything good.
Lee was Georgia's first love, and when their relationship ended, the girl's heart was broken. The young people dated for 1.5 years, but then the boyfriend left the British woman without explaining the reasons. Despite this, Lee continued to write to Georgia from time to time and fool her head.
A few months later, the ex-boyfriend showed up again and asked for a meeting. Georgia succumbed to the temptation and spent the night with him. Lee insisted then that he had made a big mistake and wanted to bring her back. When the emotions subsided, the girl thought well and decided to move on, leaving the former relationship in the past. She blocked her ex-boyfriend on social media and two years later met her current partner, Adam.
For six months everything was going great, until Georgia met her ex at a party. After a few glasses of alcohol, the ex-lovers were back in bed. The sex was bright, but in the morning the girl began to be tormented by guilt. She promised herself it wouldn't happen again, but the image of Lee continued to haunt her.
After a while, the girl gave up and wrote to her ex-boyfriend again. They had sex again. This happened several times: they didn't see each other for several months, then Georgia would break down again and resume communication. Adam began to suspect something was wrong. In the end, the girl confessed everything to him. The beloved man decided to break up with her.
Now Georgia has finally cut Lee out of her life. Meeting him was her biggest mistake. The girl is trying to get Adam back, but it will take a long time for him to believe her again.
33-year-old Marie-Rose from Nottingham is still dating for hot nights with ex-boyfriend, a 35-year-old construction worker. She likes sex with him, but this connection does not give her the opportunity to move on.
Marie-Rose is raising two children alone. She would love to start life with a clean slate, but the embrace of the former does not allow her to break out of the vicious circle. Marie started dating him when she was 20 years old. The relationship lasted six months, and the young people realized that they were not suitable for each other.
The woman wanted to move on, but continued to communicate with her ex on the phone, remaining on friendly terms with him. This lasted for several years, and then they were in the same bed again. Although at that time neither he nor she were in a relationship with others, Marie understood that such meetings would not benefit her, because they had completely different goals in life.
Nevertheless, a woman is attracted to her ex like a magnet. Sex with an ex-partner relieves tension and does not burden obligations. The connection between them stops her from searching for a new love. Marie continues to date her ex, but realizes that when he finds a girl, he will forget about her. The woman is just waiting for everything to end by itself.
28-year-old Melissa Jane (Melissa Jayne) from Manchester after parting with each of the former partners again rushed into the pool of passion. The girl admits that she became addicted to sex with ex-boyfriends. Melissa claims that the impressions during lovemaking with them are much better, because both know each other's preferences in bed.
Melissa has been in a serious relationship four times. She continues to spend nights with one of her former partners even now, despite the fact that 7 years have passed since their separation. Her friends think she's crazy, but she can't stop.
It so happened that Melissa was jealous of one of the ex-partners to his girlfriend, but realized that she had no right to do so and stopped seeing him. Nevertheless, she continues to date exes. Communication with them creates problems when Melissa starts a new relationship — few people like her close connection with the past. Once she even mentioned the name of an ex during sex with a current lover. After that, they broke up.
Melissa thinks that she will get rid of her passion when she meets true love. And until that happens, he continues to have affairs with ex-boyfriends.
23-year-old Ellen Pepper from Rutland follows the lives of ex-boyfriends on social networks and checks their pages every day. She had two serious affairs, but even after the breakup, the girl does not stop following their fate. She can't bring herself to remove ex-boyfriends from friends.
Ellen continues to observe how events develop in the lives of exes, and which girls they add to friends after her. This destroys Ellen's self-esteem because she starts comparing herself to them. However, he can't stop.
Ellen gets upset seeing cute photos of ex-boyfriend with their current girlfriends. She's even a little jealous, because guys call their passions the same words as they used to call her. But the girl also finds positive moments in surveillance. She analyzes what she doesn't like about former partners in order to avoid mistakes in new relationships.
Psychologists say that the return to the past occurs for several reasons. Sometimes people can't find a new partner for a long time, so they return to ex-lovers in search of comfort and affection. Pleasant memories allow you to relax and get rid of feelings of frustration.
In another case, former partners want to start a relationship over again, but such a decision is fraught with bad consequences. In order not to mess up the firewood again, you need to think carefully about whether to go to bed with an ex-lover, because this can only open old wounds.
Often couples who have broken up end up in the same bed again, because it's easier that way. They already know each other's preferences, and in a new relationship you need to make efforts to "get used to".
In any case, it is better to leave the past behind and move towards new goals. After all, we have one life, and it's not worth wasting time on empty memories of what can't be returned.
Meanwhile, one British woman posted nude photos of her ex, taking revenge on him for an account on a dating site. And the man sued a vindictive girlfriend.