Fatigue, judgment, and Happiness: the reality of motherhood after 50
The news that 50-year-old Naomi Campbell recently gave birth, excited the public. The Network began an active discussion of the pros and cons of late motherhood. While some say that it is never too late to be a mother, others criticize women who may not live to see their children grow up and stand on their feet. But no one knows about motherhood after 50 better than women who have children at this age. Read the candid confessions of three British women who decided to give birth to babies, having exchanged fifty kopecks.
Hormone injections, constant fatigue and sidelong glances from others: this is the reality of the lives of women who have become mothers after 50 years. At least, so say three British women who gave birth in adulthood. Their honest and poignant stories make those who want to become parents think, having crossed the half-century mark.
Tracey Britten, from London, gave birth to four-year-olds at 50. She is now 52 years old. The British woman married for the first time at the age of 18 and gave birth to three children in this marriage. In 2003, she divorced her ex-husband. In 2012, the woman married for the second time to Stephen and became pregnant, but the couple was not ready for replenishment, so Tracy had an abortion. Later, she very much regretted her decision.
After the operation, the British woman could not get pregnant. When she turned 49, the couple decided to try to conceive a child using artificial insemination. To do this, they flew to Cyprus. The procedure cost 7,000 pounds (about 730,000 rubles), but the desire to become a mother again was very great. Tracy was planted with five embryos. In order for them to take root, her husband gave her daily injections of hormones for two weeks.
In April 2018, the couple learned that they were expecting four-year-olds. They were in shock. The couple was worried about how to cope with the kids, but decided to leave everything as it is. The British woman was offered to remove two embryos, but she refused. Tracy gave birth to twins on October 26, 2018 by caesarean section. The woman was observed by about 30 doctors. All the babies were born small, but healthy. The 50-year-old mother spent several weeks with them in a medical facility.
Tracy admits that later motherhood is difficult for her. Sleepless nights and constant worries affect the well-being and health, so she advises women to think carefully before deciding to conceive a child in adulthood.
After 16 years of unsuccessful attempts to get pregnant and 30,000 pounds (about 3.2 million rubles) spent on treatment, Diane Reid became a mother for the first time at the age of 52. Now the woman is 57 years old, and she brings up two children – five-year-old Jessica and one-year-old Joseph.
The British woman honestly tells how hard motherhood is after 50. She is constantly mistaken for the children's grandmother, and she worries whether she will be able to live until the time when they go to work and get married. In addition, it is very difficult to take care of the younger son. Diana is very tired, constantly taking care of two children.
A resident of Hull at the age of 36 realized that she was ready to become a mother. Despite the fact that she and her partner were not going to officially marry, Diana decided to give birth to a child for herself. Unfortunately, the first six attempts at artificial insemination were unsuccessful. However, the woman did not give up. On the seventh and eighth attempts, the British woman became pregnant, but lost the children in the early stages.
Diana was already 50 years old when she decided to go for an artificial insemination course in Spain, not finding a suitable clinic in the UK. She was given two embryos, and this time the pregnancy was successful. In June 2015, the woman gave birth to a daughter, Jessica, by caesarean section. It took her 16 years and 30,000 pounds (about 3.2 million rubles) to be treated for infertility.
In 2019, the British woman went to a clinic in Cyprus, where she was planted with two embryos from donors. She got pregnant with twins. Unfortunately, one of the babies died at 12 weeks, and the second – Joseph-was born in January 2020.
Now Diana is raising her children alone. She is happy to be a mother and says that years of constant fatigue are worth their love.
Claire Mear gave birth to a daughter, Emily, shortly after her 50th birthday. She often faces the fact that she is condemned for motherhood at such a late age. Many people take her for the baby's grandmother.
Claire, 54, and her husband Brian, 56, from Norfolk, met and married when they were in their 40s. A woman became pregnant for the first time at the age of 46, but her daughter died in the womb when she was only a few days away from birth. This happened in August 2013 and was a real tragedy for the couple.
Four years later, the British woman decided to undergo artificial insemination in Greece. She and her husband spent 8,000 pounds (about 833,000 rubles) on two trips. Claire managed to get pregnant on the first attempt, but she was constantly worried, afraid not to deliver the child until the due date. In May 2017, the couple finally became parents. Emily was born by emergency caesarean section due to problems during labor.
The new mother breastfed the baby for the first six weeks. It was difficult for the woman, she constantly felt exhausted from fatigue. In addition, Claire often felt the sidelong glances of others.
However, the British woman does not regret that she gave birth in adulthood. She says that her little daughter gives her the strength and energy that keeps Claire young. A woman is grateful for the chance to become a mother, so she always tries to think positively.
Not only women who gave birth late, but also those who became mothers too early, come under fire from critics of others. An American woman who became pregnant at the age of 13, faced the hatred of trolls in social networks, wishing her death in the comments.
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