Cuckoos: three women honestly admitted why they gave up custody of their children
Abandoning their children seems unnatural to most mothers, but living the wrong life and making them unhappy is even more wrong. This is the opinion of three women who left their families, leaving their children to their husbands. Each of them had their own reasons for making this difficult decision, but now they consider it the most correct one. Read the stories of the mothers - "cuckoos", which society has not understood, further in our material.
For most mothers, giving up custody of their own children seems crazy, but these three women claim that for them this decision was the most correct in life. They honestly told about the reasons for their actions in the documentary "The Last Taboo" ("The Last Taboo").
Here are the candid stories of mothers about the condemnation and difficulties they faced after they refused to live with their children.
Maria really wanted to become an ideal wife and mother, but she was not ready for family life. The woman tried to play the role of a caring hostess, but her soul did not respond to the generally accepted social appeal. It seemed to the Briton that she was not living her own life.
The critical point in family relations was the diagnosis of her three-year-old daughter, Hannah: the girl was diagnosed with cancer. A year later, she died. Maria's grief was so intense that she couldn't think of anything else. As a result, her marriage broke up, and the British woman decided to leave her home, leaving the other children.
The move was not easy, but over time, Maria felt a huge relief. The woman was condemned and even said that she should be sterilized. But she knew she'd made the right decision. The British woman believes that sometimes it is better for the good of children that the mother lives separately.
Rebecca did not dream of starting a family, but love turned her head and led the girl in a completely different direction. Despite the fact that she did not intend to have children, having met a beautiful Estonian, a resident of London decided that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with him.
The beloved moved to London, and soon 23-year-old Rebecca became pregnant. At first, she was happy to be a mother. The couple decided to go to Estonia and buy a house there, thinking that it would be better for the child. But after the move, the British woman regretted it. She felt like a stranger in another country. The thought of leaving her past life behind began to frighten her.
A few weeks after the birth of her son, Rebecca desperately wanted to go home. She felt like a bird trapped in a cage. The life of a young mother turned into a real nightmare. The British woman understood that she could not continue like this, that she was suffering herself and making the baby unhappy.
When her son was two years old, Rebecca went to her brother's wedding in the UK, leaving the baby in Estonia. She decided not to return back, the child remained with the former spouse. The woman understood that she would not be able to raise him in a foreign country.
Now the mother continues to keep in touch with her son, but does not want to go to Estonia. They meet only a few times a year. However, Rebecca claims that she and her son still have a warm relationship, and she feels real maternal feelings for him.
Natalie had a difficult childhood, so she didn't want to become a mother. However, she was forced to submit to her family, who left her no choice. Born in Israel, the girl moved to America when she was five years old. She was raised by her aunt, as her mother could not cope with her duties.
The young Israeli woman grew up among Hasidic Jews, being brought up in strict traditions. Girls were taught: they should be good mothers and wives. Natalie didn't want to give birth, seeing how unstable her life was. First of all, she wanted to build a successful career.
Despite all the aspirations, the girl was married to an unloved man. Soon she became pregnant with her first child, and a year later – the second. Natalie tried to suppress her ambitions and forget that she wanted to work and travel, but it was hard for her. The young mother did not tell anyone about her emotional experiences, wearing a happy mask on her face.
But I couldn't hold back for long. When her daughter was 6 years old and her son was 4, she left them with her father, and she left home. Natalie was deprived of her parental rights. She misses the children, but she understands that it is better for them and for her.
Both mothers who leave their children behind and those who want to be close to them fall under the firing squad of critics of society. Here is an American woman who became pregnant at the age of 13, faced with the hatred of others.
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