The psychologist told about any problems with the psyche signals a disorder in the apartmentPictolic
Many may seem strange attempt to judge a person by how he was used to maintain order at home. Is there a connection between care in the home, career and personal life? Whether a lover of home chaos to be successful and happy? These are the questions the journalists were answered by the psychologist, coach and blogger Marina Muraveva.
The house is often perceived as a space for relaxation and it seems that even the owner of the neglected dwelling might be a great career, to be the soul of the company and the favorite of women. But research psychologists say that lovers of the mess in the house and in other spheres of life expect chaos.
People who are accustomed to surround yourself with a disorder feels normal and often he even likes his condition. But, it turns out, this choice was done by chance and there are reasons that forced him to live surrounded by chaos. Psychologist Marina Muraveva, having extensive experience with such people, reveals their secrets.
If not to consider clinical and psychiatric component, the clutter in the home means that the presence of human fear of novelty. Will spam the personal space, the man creates the illusion of security. This is an unconscious attempt to stop time, because filling in all around unnecessary things and relationships, we don't leave for something new, free and alive.
The energy of old things are familiar, and the emergence of something new due to the need to expend physical and emotional strength, though, to make room for fresh items and feelings. Thus, we are embroiled in a cycle of routine and put off the change for a week, a month or a year, that is forever.
But in order to in the life come changes, getting rid of trash is essential. All courses in the so-called "reset" begin with the imperative of the Council to vacate the space around them and make room for the new. In disorder, among the rubbish, as new.
One should not entertain the illusion that the mess is stability. You need to have the courage to admit to myself that this is just a response to attempts to change something, the shield behind which you hide from change. No need to cheat yourself and you will find that honesty is associated with understanding their real needs, which lead to the desired change.
Randomly scattered things are marking their own boundaries of personal space psychologist Marina Muraveva sure this man reminds himself and others about his existence, about something that means something in this world. He says: "at least this chaos I've created".
Clutter can also be a form of protest against the rigid rules established first parents, and in the later stages of life – partners. "This is my personal space and it will be as I decided, and not, as required of me by other people". People can not guess about this wording, but essentially it will not change.
Chaos can be the result of "stuck" in adolescence, when a person is not able to show protest and he seeks out more Mature age. Rebellion, hunted inside, can easily be expressed in carelessness or passion for the turmoil at home. Of course, this can not lead to conflicts in the family, especially if the partner is not such a "fad" and used to order.
As we can see, the reasons that lead a person to live in a mess, not so little. But in any case is a sign of the presence of any psychological strain. To set your life in the right direction and get out of the cycle of failure, you will have to understand and deal with psychological issues, otherwise it will remain in place as it occurs from year to year in these apartments bachelors.