In the New year with a fireworks of impressions: 10 tips to make sex life brighter and richer

New year is the perfect time for positive change, including in the sexual sphere. Under volleys of fireworks and sparkling garlands and sparklers, not stopping to light a spark in their bedroom. Sexologist Kate Taylor gives 10 practical tips for those who want to make sex life brighter and richer. Find out how to spice up sex and make it an integral part of life in the new year, from our material.

Disappointing results of a recent study app Lumen showed that about one-third of couples live without sex. Of the 2,000 respondents, 53% admitted that they had made love a month ago, and a third of respondents not fulfilled his conjugal duty. Children, stress and constant rush — the main reasons of suspension sex on the second plan.

But all is not lost. Sexologist Kate Taylor from the UK gives you 10 effective tips for those who want to change love life for the better.

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There is a feeling that you "sew" in bed? Look at the big picture. If you have unresolved issues, arguments, repeated in a circle, or topics you cannot discuss with your partner — it builds a wall between you and the bed. Having dealt with the accumulated problems, you will see how to change intimate life.

One of the ways to bring freshness in relationships — to go along to hike, play team games or organize a date in nature. To sit at a table in a restaurant face to face and discuss the problems of inconvenient and unnatural. During active rest treat each other like friends, joke, be friendly, and don't take anything to heart. Restore the fun that was present in your relationship in the beginning, and mutual trust and goodwill is also coming back.

Intimate life sex is not everything. Don't make penetration and orgasm are the main goals. Sensuality and erotica will help to resume a physical relationship without the added pressure of "performance."

Take a bath together. Kiss for 10 minutes. Hug each other naked under the blanket while watching TV. Make small steps towards making love. It may be that one of you acts like these to a certain point, and then he tries to complete them. This means that for some people sex remains the Golden goal, and the other heavy rock.

In this case, remove it at a certain time of life (e.g., month). When the pressure disappears, you are once again able to find joy in the sensual pleasures and enjoy each other again.

In the beginning of relationships hard to discuss sexual fantasies, not to be in an awkward position in front of a new person. Over time, this problem is not solved for the same reason. Many people feel shy to talk openly about their sexual desires.

Before Frank discussion of intimate topics with a partner, prepare to be surprised by his unexpected preferences. So it will be easier to uncover the naughty thoughts hidden until now. Ask a question: "Surprise me. What turns you on the most? Tell me your fantasies and I will share with you."

To make love the plan sounds like a sentence of passion, but if you want to renew it in intimate life, then this tip will bring you success. To prepare for the sex you need tuning in the right wave. Relax in a warm bath, cook a light dinner, and take care that in the evening children were not at home. You do not need to determine the exact time for the act of love, but simply select a day for the two of you. Plan a romantic intimate space, and let it go at that.

If you want to customize the sex in the right mood, do not allow the returning routine, keeping the spark in bed. Do not allow problems to accumulate: each evening, turn off the phones and computers and spend time together as a couple. Find an hour for fun and talk on topics that give you the bandwagon.

Take active steps to make sex easy, affordable and relaxed as possible: so you definitely feel sexual desire and libido will increase.

One of the common causes of loss of sex drive — that we can't concentrate. Such distractions as feelings about their appearance or plan tomorrow's Affairs, can lead to reach orgasm becomes more difficult, and eventually impossible.

Women more than men tend to be distracted, wondering, do they look sexy. Sex therapists recommend the use of the technique "touch-focus", developed about 60 years ago, Masters and Johnson (Masters and Johnson): going to bed with a partner, touch or kiss each other, avoiding the traditional erogenous zones. Focus on what you feel, hear, taste and see. Do the exercise 3 — 4 times a week for 10 minutes. Soon you will find it easier to concentrate and slowly progress to full sex.

If your partner refused to have sex suddenly and unexpectedly, do not regard it as a problem in the relationship. The reason may lie in his way of life. Unhealthy changes (overweight, excessive alcohol consumption, refusal of activities) can reduce sexual desire. Try to get back to a healthy lifestyle, and will see how everything will come to normal.

Problems can also occur due to medication. Many medications have side effects that affects the intimate life. Statins (cholesterol) and tablets from hypertension can even lead to impotency. Lower libido and hormonal contraceptives and certain antidepressants. If you think that your medication can have a negative impact on intimate relationships, tell the doctor so he replaced them with an alternative.

You may feel that your couple is the most non-sexual in the world. Don't worry: what you don't share intimacy, shows that you — a rather mediocre family.

The secret of sexual happiness of a lifetime is to learn together to cope with difficulties.

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