How to Deal with Unbalanced People and Stay Safe

Unbalanced people do not always pose a danger to others. But communicating with them is still not very pleasant, because they tend to do rash acts and say not very pleasant things. Many people have such acquaintances or relatives, so it is important to know how to behave with them correctly. A few rules will help control the situation and not make problems for yourself.

When dealing with unbalanced people, it is important not to forget that they often do not control themselves. It's strange, but there's nothing you can do about it. Therefore, in the process of communicating with such personalities, one must come to terms with the fact that one will have to listen to something unpleasant. You just need not to take it personally, turn on the filter, a kind of censorship. It is better to ignore most of what was said, extracting only the main essence from the speech of the problem person. Everything that has an emotional connotation should be immediately weeded out.

People with an unbalanced psyche react quickly to changes in the mood of others. This can be not only a change in the tone of the voice, but also barely noticeable facial expressions. Therefore, when communicating with people with a mobile psyche, one must remember that any emotion, even if it does not have a negative color, can be perceived as something bad. The best way is to practice poker face. This can be difficult, especially if you are told unpleasant things or threatened. But it's worth it. Do not let us get close to your psyche and use your state to escalate the situation or aggression.

It is not for nothing that such people are called unbalanced. For them, such concepts as norms of behavior, morality, respect and feelings of others are empty sounds. It may seem to you that such a person despises you or even hates you, but this is not so. Usually his emotions are directed at the abstract crowd, everyone around him. In this case, neither gender, nor race, nor any other characteristics play a role.

Often in response to such an attack, there is a strong desire to fight back. Still, it seems that all this negativity is addressed to you and righteous anger flares up. This is a normal reaction, but only if you are arguing with an adequate person. But in the case of an unbalanced person, such a rebuff would be inappropriate, because he fell on you just because you fell under a hot hand and there is nothing personal in his emotions.

When dealing with people with an unstable psyche, the main mistake will be a response to attacks and insults. We have already said above that they are just waiting for this in order to further increase the degree of inadequacy. Therefore, instead of reacting to another barb, simply move the conversation in a different direction, neutral. Move unpleasant conversation away from the boiling point so that there is no explosion. This may seem humiliating to you, as it is like running away from the battlefield. But this is not at all the case when you need to spend nerves and strength to go to the end.

Unfortunately, everyone has to deal with inadequate people. Avoiding them is not always possible, and in order to redirect the conversation in a different direction, you need some experience. Therefore, you need to try to find common ground with an unbalanced person. This is especially useful if you want to maintain a normal relationship with him in the future.

In order not to enter into a senseless struggle, invite the interlocutor to do something together right now. For example, go to a cafe and have lunch, and at the same time calmly discuss the problem. You can also remind him of something that has a pleasant color for him, for example, to talk about fishing. This will make the unbalanced person stop and calm down. But you need to do it naturally and unobtrusively, so that the opponent does not understand that he is being taken away from an unpleasant conversation.

It is immediately necessary to clarify that it is not always possible to enter into a confrontation with an unbalanced person. You must be sure that nothing threatens your health and reputation. If a person is drunk, then in response to your words, he may well use his fists, which is not at all what we need. But if you are sure that it will not come to assault, then give the other person change, of course, verbally. It's best if you don't stoop to his level and use obvious insults. Always be above it.