The psychologist explained what the most common sexual fantasies mean
Every person, regardless of gender and marital status, has sexual fantasies. Most often, we cannot explain where they came from and what they mean, but psychologists have long known about this, if not everything, then very, very much. British psychologist Michelle Doetri wrote a scientific article in which she briefly and popularly explained the origin of fantasies.
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If a person is attracted to making love in crowded places, where they can easily be caught, it means that this is exactly what he wants. Dr. Michel Doetri believes that this is due to the suppression of a part of his nature in favor of social norms accepted in society. Therefore, that very nature strives to break out.
This is not the only explanation for the desire to have sex in public places. The psychologist claims that masochistic tendencies of a person can still play a role here. He wants to be caught, humiliated, convicted, and maybe punished.
If unfamiliar women appear in such male fantasies, then they can be explained by an unrealized desire to prove their masculinity. But if we are talking about a married man, and he dreams of having sex with his wife and, for example, her friend, then this indicates an obvious craving for the new, unknown and at the same time an unwillingness to lose the trust of his wife.
Michelle Doetri says that a man's desire to shoot homemade porn for his public demonstration, for example, on the Internet, can be a sign of self-doubt and a desire to prove his masculine strength to others. In addition, the publication of such a video humiliates a woman and can be regarded as violence against a weaker one. Well, this already speaks precisely about sexual insolvency and moral inferiority.
This is one of the most incredible fantasies that will not come true with a 99.9% probability. It is known that celebrities, especially women, carefully take care of themselves and are therefore sexually attractive. It is quite natural to want intimacy with such a person, and this type of fantasy helps to increase self-esteem. These are more harmless dreams than those associated with women who are nearby and can cause psychological trauma by their behavior.
Freud believed that the desire to be in bed with two partners comes from childhood, when a child sought protection and peace in the bed of his parents. Michelle Doetri has her own point of view on this phenomenon. If a woman is excited by the idea of having sex with two guys, then this may mean that the woman depends on public opinion and is very constrained. Violation of social norms in fantasies excites her.
According to Michelle Doetri, dreams of having sex with an unknown man are a good way to experiment, to "fly off the rails". An unknown man will never meet her again, and therefore will not condemn her. Often girls with such fantasies are shy of their partner or respect him too much to be completely uninhibited with him.
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