Normal men cannot build relationships with such women
No one will be able to calculate, for example, the trajectory of a star if they are not shown how to do it. The same is true in relationships — a person reproduces only the model of behavior that he learned in the parents' family. If he grew up in a traumatic environment, then already in his family he will create the same situation over and over again only to come out of it victorious. These are the calculations of psychologists.
If you are a normal man and you need a normal woman, then this article is for you. Here are the signs of women who are not capable of healthy relationships.
1. Passionately dreams of getting married. Most often , it covers up this most trivial desire in its essence with beautiful and convincing formulations like: "I have to give all of myself to a loved one," "I want to completely dissolve in him," "for me, the main thing is mutual understanding." The line separating this passionate lover from a normal full-fledged woman is so thin that it is almost impossible to determine it. For my part, I can offer the following criterion: a normal woman will never talk about marriage first and will not pour out all sorts of sophisticated expressions on this topic. Most likely, tenderness and trust are really not bad things, but the solemn intonations with which all this is pronounced cannot but alert a sane person.
2. She is a single mother. In many cases, this is carefully hidden. The lady I met once was really beautiful and smart, and she liked me terribly - but, alas, I can't help myself - I hate and don't forgive cunningly.
3. A deliberately independent manner of behavior looks very shabby, a desire to argue hotly about anything, defending one's point of view, and sometimes an outright unwillingness to listen, perceive, and simply give in if necessary. This means that she had a lot of problems — in life, with men, with work, with health ... and then everything will be even worse, believe me.
4. After the first conversation and even during it, he offers to meet immediately in any place convenient for you. Why is she hanging around her neck like that? Does he want to solve his problems as soon as possible? A woman should not offer to meet herself at all — it's unfeminine. It's feminine to expect when a man offers. Otherwise, she also has some problems.
5. Hides the most innocent things. A normal woman is always sincere and responds to a sincere appeal in the same way. In most cases, they seem to reflect the type of relationship that is imposed on them, and it should be recognized that in this sense, women are a perfect charm. And not pathological shit, as in this case. So this one is abnormal. Complexes there she has or something else.
6. On the contrary, he immediately begins to cut the truth-uterus, and does it with some kind of inner challenge, almost with audacity: "Yes, I'm already 27. Yes, height 160, and weight 58." So what? Complexes. You'll see: her next phrase will be: "Does this say anything about me as a person?" Well, of course it does! Send her to the figs - otherwise you will be exhausted later. Proudly join the host of sensible comrades who boldly sent her.
7. He talks too much about himself and asks practically nothing. This is also bad. Normal communication is always two-way traffic.
8. In communication, a girl with a disgusting character will constantly oppose you to herself. For example, you tell her that you love skiing. So, a girl with a normal psyche will react positively to a story about your hobbies, in the case of an idiotic character, she will criticize him for everything in a row: "And I don't like that", "That's strange! And I ...", "I would never...", "But I...", "Well, no...", etc., etc. is enough to diagnose such a lady. This criterion looks somewhat sophisticated, but it is the most accurate and the best. Tested many times.
9. She says that she has someone now, but the relationship has almost stalled, they almost don't meet anymore, and so on. A normal girl does things differently. She carefully hides the fact that she has someone, meets with another, and quietly throws the first one. By doing this, she saves her new friend from all sorts of not always humane experiences. I have always been interested in tactful, understanding women. And you?
10. Likes to talk about past relationships. This means that as a person she is shallow. She fills her own price, is complexed, does not understand that in this way she only humiliates the new cavalier. Or understands, but continues to compare intentionally.
11. She is terribly depressed about parting with her great love, her heart is broken. There are, of course, woodpeckers who, sacrificing themselves, their self-esteem, mental strength and time, perform something like the function of a nurse around her. However, their situation is very deplorable. The girl is cured of her heartache — but the person of the smart guy is forever associated with her period of serious illness. The guy will never be taken seriously. People, beware of such situations!
12. Lives with his mother, who has been divorced for a long time. A loving mother spent all her time and energy on her own daughter, sacrificed her own happiness ... And the daughter on an unconscious level is not going to leave this mom at all. This means that your attempts to take the girl away from her native home will lead to the fact that the daughter will begin to feel you as a person who wishes her mom evil (loneliness in old age and all that).
13. Hates his mother, or even both parents. At the same time for the kit (for women in general everything goes in one set), he also treats with hatred everything that is usually correlated with the traditionally female sphere of activity — to the household, cooking, kitchen, to the house and order in it ... He also (apparently, at the same time) does not tolerate the spirit. Either she has low self-esteem and a lot of all sorts of problems and complexes — and you risk getting lost and disappearing into this darkness, or she is lying (so that you do not suspect that she is going to marry you to herself; this is probably even worse).
14. Pathologically afraid of losing her innocence (this is provided that she is over 20 years old). Raises this topic in the very first conversation. Most likely, she has an ambivalent attitude to the problem: she wants and does not want to lose at the same time (women have an ambivalent attitude to everything and, first of all, to men). Innocence for her is almost certainly a guarantee of a successful personal life in the future. There is a purely neurotic dependence on her virginity; this latter has become, as they say, a fixation point for her. That is, a kind of spiritual support, something like faith (or feeling good, because in the female case it's the same thing, but we'll talk about poor female religiosity later).
Then the following happens. All this neurotic complex after the loss of innocence will have to be transferred to something else — do not the good disappear?! She needs to believe in something, if there is no innocence now. It is guaranteed that the transfer will go to the comrade who deprived her of her innocence. Now she will be (just as panic-stricken) afraid of losing him. One neurotic formation will inevitably be replaced by another. Our beauty will become terribly jealous — even of a lamppost. So in general, low self-esteem is most often manifested — even in such souls as we men
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