"My mother had an abortion at the 8th month, but I survived," Melissa ODEN was able to forgive and wrote a book
29 August 1977 girl weighing slightly more than a kilogram of wires and tubes lying in the unit for newborns. But there was not seen anxious parents who would be holding the baby's hand, desperately wishing that she survived. Mother Melissa ODEN (Melissa Ohden) left the hospital in Iowa, believing that the child died as a result of the saline abortion, which she did in her eighth month of pregnancy.
The abortion was unsuccessful, but the mother of Melissa for 36 years had no idea that the baby survived. Once Melissa learned about the dramatic beginning of her life, she spent almost two decades trying to find answers, and found that the biological mother did not want to have an abortion. Melissa also learned that your life it is bound to a nurse who heard the faint cry of a child, thrown away as medical waste. In a series of terrible details it turned out that that day was on duty, another nurse who instructed others to "leave the child in the room to die." Amazingly, this nurse was the grandmother of the baby.
Knowing this about his life, the other person would become angry and violent. But Melissa, which was adopted by a loving family, reunited with her biological mother last year and found the strength to forgive.
Doctors hospital of Sioux city, Iowa calculated that Melissa's mother was 31 weeks pregnant when she underwent the saline abortion method, which is not used in the US and the UK. Melissa was suffering from jaundice, respiratory disorders and convulsions. It was expected that even if she survives, she will have problems with vision, hearing, and developmental delays. Three weeks later she was transferred to a hospital in Iowa city. Nurses who care for the child, gave her clothes and booties. One of the nurses, Mary, decided that a newborn needs a name, and called her Katie rose. At the age of three months the baby has left the hospital. She was adopted by Linda and Ron ODEN. Previously, the couple adopted a girl Tammy is four years older than Melissa.
For many years her foster parents and nurse Mary kept in touch, exchanging postcards, letters and photographs. When Melissa grew up, then she began to chat with Mary.
To five years Melissa has caught up with development peers and was completely healthy.
Parents never hid from his daughters that they adopted. "Like all normal sisters, Tammy and constantly argued. During one of the fights, when I was 14, she blurted out: "At least my parents wanted me!""
A large part of the teenage years, Melissa has had a huge emotional burden, she developed bulimia, and she is addicted to sex and alcohol.
Melissa gathered strength and went on to study political science at the University of South Dakota. She later learned that her biological mother was also there. Surprisingly, the grandmother of Melissa, the woman where the girl's mother had an abortion, worked as a Professor at the University, where he studied Melissa.
At the age of 19 want to know more about the past just ate Melissa, and she began to look for biological parents. In the adoption papers is little information, and she moved back to Sioux city to be closer to archival records. Melissa spent her time reading Newspapers, telephone books, and yearbooks in search of someone who would be like her biological mother. Melissa even placed an ad in the newspaper in search of information. But all the efforts were not successful. However, after years of futile searches Melissa finally found a clue.
Melissa sent her a letter, but said the grandfather.
Melissa briefly left the search. By the time she was married to Ryan. Now they have two daughters, the eldest Melissa gave birth in the same hospital where she was born.
When Melissa was 36, a cousin of her biological mother contacted her. He said that her parents were College students.
Melissa wondered how it was possible to adopt her without the consent of his mother, and came to the conclusion that the signature is simply forged.
Finally, after 17 years of searching, a cousin of the mother helped Melissa reach her.
Melissa learned that her grandmother passed away a few years ago. She also found that she has two stepsisters. One of them Melissa already seen, with other plans to meet in the near future. With her mother she met several times, and maintains constant contact.
Melissa published a book about his life and founded a community of survivors of the abortion, to support those who find themselves in the same position.
Keywords: Abortion | Mother | Foster family | Parents | Family