How to maintain a long-distance relationship? 8 tips from psychologists
A long—distance relationship is a very romantic, but at the same time risky "adventure" that can either end as the best love story, or turn into a complete disappointment for its participants. And what the ending of this story will be, often depends only on ourselves.
You can just wait "for the weather from the sea", or you can try to make sure that these relationships have a future. Read about the most effective ways to maintain long-distance relationships in our material.
The very first rule of a successful long—distance relationship is regular communication. Are you looking for any ways to talk to your soulmate — via Skype, Zoom, regular mobile communication, SMS, photo exchange ... Or maybe you even want to send a letter to your beloved? Just wonderful!
Be that as it may, communication should occupy a key place in each other's daily lives. Without long-distance communication, it doesn't even make sense to talk about any serious relationship.
Talking is, of course, good, but what about spending time together? Yes, even at a distance it is possible! For example, you can agree and watch a movie together (at the same time). Or you can play a computer game. This is both a good rest for the brain and time spent with a partner at the same time.
It's great if you come up with some special activity that only you two will know about. For example, you can read the same book, walk the streets with the same name, or cook dinner at the same time. Show imagination!
The most important aspect of any relationship is sincerity and trust. It is best at the very beginning of your stormy romance to talk openly about how you see the future. Are you in it together or apart? Have you come together and successfully built a new cell of society, or are you still wandering around different cities and everyone is engaged in their own lives?
If in the foreseeable future a person does not see you next to him, does it make sense to maintain such a relationship at all?
Like any couple, you should have common interests. Yes, it will be very difficult to go to a football game or a performance while in different cities /countries… But you can find other points of contact.
Find out what your significant other loves and share your hobbies with her. Maybe the two of you just love cycling! This is a great opportunity to discuss the most picturesque routes you have ever traveled, new items in the world of the cycling industry and just share funny stories related to it. The bonus will be that, every time you do your hobby, you will inadvertently remember your loved one.
Another important rule of long—distance relationships is no control! We are all familiar with feelings of groundless jealousy, distrust and resentment… But by giving free rein to these feelings, you risk losing your partner forever.
If you decide to maintain a long-distance relationship, be prepared to trust and be honest in return. Do not try to control every step of your beloved, harass her with calls and questions. And, even more so, you do not need to tell your partner what to do and what not to do.
Try, at least sometimes, but still arrange personal meetings. Close contacts are very important, and they may be critically missed by lovers. Hence stress, doubts, resentments and the desire to give up everything ... However, this can be avoided if you see each other at least occasionally, hold hands, hug and spend romantic evenings together.
Or maybe not too romantic… During a long-distance relationship, even a fleeting meeting at the train station can mean a lot! Arrange a meeting in advance, or even better — arrange a surprise. It will be an unforgettable emotion for both of you.
Try to come to terms with your situation, accept it and learn to find advantages in it. Yes, you are far from your beloved, but you have plenty of time to engage in self-development, pay more attention to work or meet friends.
Long—distance relationships are difficult, but it's also a good test of your feelings for strength. Not every love can withstand such a test. And if she can stand it, she won't be afraid of anything anymore!
And, of course, it is equally important to have a positive attitude! Do not doubt that you will succeed! The time will come, and you and your beloved will definitely be together. It remains only to be patient a little, and you can do it.
Don't be upset if your acquaintances/friends/friends of friends had a similar story and nothing worked out. Your story is unique! And it depends only on you how it will end.