How to deal with unpleasant emotions
No matter how we strive for positive, but negative feelings and emotions are an integral part of our life. And if you can’t avoid them, then you need to change your attitude towards them so that troubles do not poison our lives. Someone will say that it is easy to do just in words. But this is not so - all the “medicines” for negativity are inside us and we just need to learn how to use them correctly.
Negative emotions are unpleasant because they take us by surprise. You can come to work with a wonderful mood, but just one phrase or even a look can ruin everything. It often happens that it is not possible to deal with the problem and eradicate the negative immediately. Then only one thing remains - to live through an unpleasant emotion so that it does not settle deep in the soul and, moreover, does not break out. So, here are three basic principles, knowing which you can endure resentment and grief without harm.
The most annoying mistake that people make in problem situations is to identify with uncomfortable emotions. You cannot assume that if something bad happened, it is because something is wrong with you. Feelings of guilt must be dealt with first. You are perfectly fine, and negativity has nothing to do with your personality. You are not to blame for anything and what happened could happen to anyone.
Feelings of guilt, fear, insecurity do not help to deal with unpleasant emotions. On the contrary, the more they are superimposed on the problem, the more terrible it seems. Only a positive attitude and calm acceptance of what happened will help you quickly return to a stable state. Self-compassion is the key to overcoming a crisis.
If we ignore or deny unpleasant feelings, or, conversely, bring them down on those who are nearby, everything only becomes more complicated. Discomfort not only does not go away, it continues to accumulate inside us, affecting those who are nearby as well. Too much negativity can lead to nervous breakdowns, depression and deterioration in relationships with other people.
Negative emotions do not need to accumulate in yourself. No need to sow them around. It is best to "live" them, which will allow not only to free yourself, but also to strengthen yourself morally. The principle of living negative emotions can change everyone's life for the better.
Learning to deal with negative emotions is easy. You just need to change your attitude towards them. Recognize any symptoms that you will experience after the onset of discomfort. Think of them as a natural, natural process, and not as something terrible. Proclaim these emotions as good, preferably out loud.
After that, you will notice that your state will begin to change. You will feel lighter and freer, and the negative will gradually disappear. Remember that the main factor that does not allow the bad to disappear is our resistance to negativity. If you look, the problem is not in negative emotions, but in our desire to keep them.
It is also useful to learn how to properly behave with unbalanced people. After all, it is they who, most often, “give” us negative emotions.