How do representatives of 7 different nations behave on a date
According to the statistics of marriage agencies, every second interethnic marriage breaks up after five or six years of living together. As a rule, people just can't find a common language. But everything could have been different if women had carefully looked at their future husband on the first date.
Is it worth waiting for calmness from the Italians, generosity from the French and romance from the Germans? Why do the Swedes prefer extreme dating, and the Chinese will never give a lady a coat?
In July 2014, one of the most famous couples of Italian cinema, Adriano Celentano and Claudia Mori, celebrated 50 years of marriage. They met on the set of the movie "Some strange type", but at first the idol of millions of girls did not make any impression on Claudia. The great love story began in one of the clubs where Adriano invited her to his concert. He sang a heartfelt song about a broken heart, and then jumped off the stage, approached Claudia and confessed his feelings in front of everyone. They left the club together. Celentano's public confession did not shock the local public at all.
Italians generally do not hesitate to show their feelings in front of strangers. They do not skimp on flowers, give generous gifts and amaze the imagination of ladies with the most extraordinary actions. They can easily jump off the bridge into the river to prove their courage, or come to visit their beloved through the window. And it does not matter at all that for this you will have to overcome three floors through a drainpipe.
By the way, Italians are one of the most persistent suitors. If they liked a woman, then they will give her more and more new signs of attention, amaze the imagination with unusual declarations of love and crazy actions. As a rule, such tactics ultimately lead to a long-awaited victory.
According to one version, the Duke of Orleans invented the first valentines in 1415. At that time, he was imprisoned in a dungeon and had fun writing love letters to his own wife. It is not surprising that valentines have become so popular among modern Frenchmen — a great sign of attention for a few euro cents.
It's no secret that French men are now famous all over the world not only for their gallantry, but also for such qualities as thrift and practicality. What is their pragmatic attitude to gifts worth.
According to the OpinionWay center, 57% of the French are ready to resell "extra" presents this year. Most of all, the trade in second-hand gifts is flourishing among young people. 63% of French people aged 18 to 24 prefer to turn unnecessary gifts into money.
They also take care of women in a very practical way. Flowers are given rarely and in exceptional cases, as well as small unexpected gifts. The first date is usually scheduled in the morning or afternoon. A good opportunity, for example, to combine a lunch break with a romantic date. Of course, in France, the lady will pay for herself.
Traditionally, German men are distinguished by laconicity, practicality and sobriety of mind. The German is not inclined to make empty promises. If he offers to get married, it means that it is serious and for a long time. If he calls for a date, it's not out of politeness, but because he really wants it. He will not promise to call back if he is not in the mood to communicate. When he invites you on a date, he will clearly set the time and place of the meeting. However, this behavior does not mean that the Germans are far from romance.
It's just that women in Germany have become too emancipated. This is evidenced by the results of a study by the Allensbach Institute for the Study of Public Opinion. Almost two-thirds of men in Germany admitted that their compatriots have achieved full equality. 28% believe that emancipation has gone too far. 7% of Germans directly stated that they simply cannot behave like men, because such behavior is considered unacceptable.
It turns out that the women have achieved their goal. Now, on dates in Germany, they pay for themselves, they are quite normal if, after the first meeting, a man invites her home. Why waste time on empty formalities? But if a man calls to the cinema or theater, it means that he is very serious.
However, it does not do without romance at all. Germans can also prepare a small gift as a sign of attention. However, without the beautiful packaging. They usually spend neither time nor money on making a gift in Germany.
Swedes are experts on unusual dates. They don't really like restaurants and quiet walks in parks. It is much more interesting to fly with a girl in a balloon, jump with a parachute, go hiking in the mountains or go karting. Not to mention going to the ice rink or skiing. By the way, they usually pay for entertainment separately, too. The Swedes are not greedy, it's just that the women there are as independent as the Germans.
By the way, an active lifestyle is in the blood of Swedes in general. It is no coincidence that they were recognized as the most athletic nation. According to the Euromag agency, every seventh Swede is actively engaged in sports. 33% regularly visit fitness centers. And most of them are men.
But even if a woman fully shares the hobbies of a Swedish man, she should not count on an early marriage — at least for an official one. Divorce in Sweden is expensive, so couples prefer to live in a civil marriage. Moreover, their rights are exactly the same as those of registered spouses.
In the late 90s, Americans came up with a new kind of leisure, which was called speed dating. The essence of express dating is simple. There are the same number of girls and boys in a pre-determined place. Each couple communicates for five minutes, then changes partners until everyone gets to know each other. After each conversation, the participants write notes expressing their sympathies. If they are mutual, then the guy and the girl have already agreed to meet in another place.
This way of dating clearly characterizes the attitude of Americans to love. They do not like long courtship, do not understand why waste time on romantic letters and beautiful promises. It is not customary to arrange surprises for your beloved girl and give flowers here. Do not wait for the fact that the man will definitely take the girl home after the cafe or invite her to his place. Of course, if he does not immediately offer to spend the night with him without any special obligations. American women are emancipated enough and do not respond to such a proposal with a slap in the face.
Perhaps the most mysterious for the female soul are Japanese men. In the East, in general, they try to behave very politely so as not to offend the interlocutor in any case. Women are no exception.
Natalia from Khabarovsk (28 years old):
Temperament and passion are not about the Japanese. Especially in public. And it is difficult to understand whether he sincerely admires, for example, your taste in clothes or just pronounces the words of duty out of politeness. Besides, it is not customary for them to talk about their feelings. We were together for almost six months, but he never confessed his love. However, he showed his attention through actions - he gave expensive gifts, was very caring, always tried to feel my mood. I'm just going to ruin it, he's trying to cheer me up right away.
In addition, the Japanese are well-known workaholics. Mine worked 12 hours a day. So it's like this: he found time for a date - it means he has a serious interest in a woman. Especially if he meets after work and calls to see you next time. But I didn't dare to connect my life with a Japanese: I never learned to understand him.
Even if the Japanese did not like the date with the lady and he does not want to continue his relationship with her, he will still call her after the meeting, thank her long and hard for the evening spent, say compliments and many different pleasant words. And after a date, a Japanese man can call a woman who is not interested in him more than once. However, then he will still thankfully inform them that nothing will work out for them. Such seemingly illogical behavior is explained by simple politeness. In Japan, it is considered indecent to simply disappear and leave the lady alone with thoughts: "Why doesn't he call?"
The Chinese are very serious about choosing a life partner. This is one of the reasons why marriages in the country are very strong. The first date in China is very original. A young man comes to a meeting not alone, but together with a friend. It happens that not with one. Usually the date takes place in a cafe or restaurant. All evening, a friend tells the girl about the many advantages of a potential groom. By the way, according to tradition, a friend also pays the bill. After a date, a woman must be escorted home, even if the man did not like her. If a man wants to continue the relationship, he will definitely ask where she wants to go next time.
By the way, Chinese men treat a woman with respect, but do not show many of the usual signs of attention. For example, it is not customary to give a woman a hand, help her put on a coat, open the door in front of her. Any touch to a strange woman is generally regarded as an insult. The roots of this behavior go back to the distant past. For a long time in China, it was believed that any touch to a woman obliges a man to connect his life with her. Nowadays, the usual emancipation has been added to the old tradition. Chinese women regard the usual signs of attention in our understanding as infringement of their rights.
Keywords: Relationships | Man | Woman | Society | Date | Nationality