7 unpleasant discoveries about friends on vacation
Travel sometimes becomes a test of friends for strength, and in the saddest cases – alas, and the reason for the termination of friendship. What unpleasant discoveries about your friends can be made during the trip and how to minimize the conflict, read in this post.
An unpleasant discovery: friends, usually quite punctual in their usual life, decide to relax to the fullest on vacation and either deny any ideas about time, motivating it "we are on vacation, where to hurry" (and, as a result, they lie on the beach all day, sit with a cup of coffee in a coffee shop for several hours, are late for museums or, worst of all, refuse to leave the hotel room), or try to see all the sights of the city during the day, constantly hurry up, check the map, make an unpleasant fuss and exclaim reproachfully every minute: "But we're late for the sixth church because of you! Hurry up! What are we worth! There's no time to rest!"
How to fight: if the company is large, it makes sense to divide into those who want leisurely walks, and those who want to see everything to the maximum, and walk with a group of like-minded people, arranging a meeting at a certain hour in a certain place. If you are traveling together, it is worth starting a conversation that it would be nice to find a middle ground, and make it a habit to plan and approve the pace and route in advance, for example, every morning.
An unpleasant discovery: seemingly decent friends in everyday life can be completely impossible. If your part of the room looks like an exemplary wardrobe from Ikea, then theirs is a place of raptor carnage. You step on someone's underwear lying on the floor in the bathroom and find unwashed dishes exactly when everyone is late for the train - a friend blunts his eyes guiltily and says: "I forgot ..." The reverse situation is no less annoying: if your neighbor and companion is an adherent of asepsis, perfect order and laying out things in accordance with the Pantone catalog: he demands to wipe all the crumbs from the table immediately, not to put clothes on the sofa and swears terribly if someone does not fold the tent neatly.
How to fight: just like at school – make a duty schedule, monitor its implementation and, just in case, be prepared for the fact that you will still have to clean up.
An unpleasant discovery: constant exclamations of "Oh, I forgot ...", requests to borrow a toothbrush, a clean T-shirt, a phone charger can be very annoying, and the general carelessness of a travel companion (then he will lose money, then he will forget his passport) slows down and seriously violates general plans.
How to fight: firstly, by your own example - check the availability of all things by reading the list out loud, and secondly, find out in advance before the trip who takes what, and remind everyone on the eve of departure.
An unpleasant discovery: a person who is able to chirp and flit from party to party in the capital, suddenly finds himself unable to walk a kilometer while traveling, always wants to sit down somewhere, asks everyone to take a taxi instead of breathing fresh air and walking. Everyone will find out about the fact that the poor guy's shoes were rubbed, and not once, but someone may have to drag him on himself, borrow band-aids and comfort him.
How to fight: alas, it is impossible to radically overcome a whiner. Terepenie and consolation are the best friends of a mourner who finds himself in the company of a mourner. After all, that's exactly what he needs.
An unpleasant discovery: positive fathers, exemplary mothers, excellent students, having escaped into the wild, suddenly begin to relax "with a margin", "for sure" and "for the whole year" – as a result, they have to be dissuaded from the idea of climbing the highest palm tree, stop from night swims naked, wake up so as not to be late for the plane, and pack things for them – because they themselves are not able to.
How to fight: if it didn't work out to keep track of the drinker, show compassion. A bottle of water and a tube of Enterosgel will bring the person who has had too much to his senses faster, and they will save you from incessant complaints about a monstrous hangover. If you keep track of it, you should gently explain that, perhaps, the eighth glass on an empty stomach is not the best solution and at least you need to have a snack, and at most – finish with libations and go to the hotel.
An unpleasant discovery: the eternal nightmare of all male travelers is when a female chicken coop, at the sight of the cherished words "sale" and "discounts", makes a commotion, requires a recalculation of the route with a visit to "just a couple of places" and "for a while". As a result, tired men shift from foot to foot for the sixth hour at the door of the shoe store and curse the day when they agreed to go somewhere at all.
How to fight: allocate one day or a couple of evenings for shopping – so everyone who is interested in updating their wardrobe will calm their soul and heart, and everyone who is left indifferent by the figures of 70% on shop windows will go to a museum or drink beer.
An unpleasant discovery: instead of calmly staring out of the train window at the beautiful views, friends immediately start fussing and shooting everything in a row, and then they stick their heads into their screens to choose the right filter on Instagram. At lunch in establishments with Wi-Fi, the conversation begins with the question "What is your password?!" and resumes only after everyone checks their mail or posts statuses. Discussion of natural beauties is measured by likes.
How to fight: agree on a five-minute (no more) check of mail and social networks, and in particularly extreme cases, introduce the rule of the edge of the table, when everyone puts their phones on the edge of the table during lunch, and the one who reaches for his first – pays for everyone. It usually works.