5 signs that You are Dating a psychopath
Almost all relationships start brightly, and it's not easy to immediately understand who fate really brought you together with. For this reason, every beautiful novel threatens to end with a bitter ending, in which the victim will lose self-esteem and self-confidence, and the psychopath will go in search of new prey.
It is almost impossible to identify a psychopath at first glance, but experts say there are signs by which inappropriate behavior can be detected. Read on in our article how to understand that your partner has the traits of a psychopath.
Have you met a person who surrounded you with love and care? For a few weeks you are in euphoria, and then you start to feel as if something is wrong. Perhaps your charismatic partner turned out to be a real psychopath. It is not easy to identify him at first glance, but there are signs that make it possible to recognize a mentally unstable person in a relationship. Noticing them, run away from such a person without looking back and cut off all ties with him.
Here are the features that indicate that your partner is a psychopath.
Psychos are masters of manipulation. Their only goal is to destroy your life. First they study you carefully, and then they put you on the shoulder blades. Psychopaths are wonderful actors who are able to play along with you in everything. They bombard with love, gifts and are ready to put the whole world at your feet. But the beautiful wrapper quickly flies off.
Gradually, the psychopath stops inviting you on dates, starts making sarcastic remarks and calling you paranoid. At first you try to convince yourself that this is happening only in your head, and you get confused in false sensations.
The psycho collects memories and scrapes your reality. Gradually, your world is getting tighter. A mentally unstable partner inspires you that friends and relatives are not needed, and you isolate yourself from loved ones in order to calm him down. In the end, you are left alone with him.
The connection with a psychopath leads to the fact that the partner begins to feel detached from life. The relationship consists of three phases: to separate, to devalue, to abandon. The psycho wants to make you feel useless and make you available prey. He skillfully pretends to be kind and compassionate, but soon he gets tired of it, and he shows his real gut.
Gradually, the psychopath begins to harshly criticize you, masking remarks under compliments. For example: "You look much prettier without makeup," or "It's great that you were offered a promotion, but don't you think that this place will be given to someone smarter?".
Your self-esteem is starting to crack at the seams. You get used to tiptoeing around your unbalanced partner, trying to guess his mood. This is how the depreciation phase begins. It can last from several weeks to several years.
Then comes the failure stage. There comes a state when you can no longer tolerate this state of affairs and break the vicious circle. To get out of the stupor, you need to be alone for a while and realize what happened to you.
Before you start dating someone, you need to cultivate a high self-esteem. You need to feel like a complete person and understand what you want from your partner. Pay attention not to appearance, but to empathy, kindness and stability. Listen carefully to your feelings when you go on a date.
Be realistic and follow your intuition. You don't have to take care of, help get ready, or treat a psychopathic partner. The sense of obligation comes from codependency. To break the vicious circle, you need to ask yourself the question: "Why do I want to end or continue this relationship?". If your answers are: "I hate being alone" or "I like to make other people happy," then you'd better consult a psychologist.
You deserve real and simple love. But you need to find it in yourself first, and only then look around. Only then will you be able to build a reliable and healthy relationship.
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