Why do girls choose men much older than themselvesPictolic
The marriage of a young girl and an elderly man at all times has become a topic for discussion. Few believe in the sincerity of the relationship and, most often, in such unions see only selfish motives by the ladies. Whether so it actually? This question was answered reporters psychologist Maria Merkulova.
Journalists of the popular publication, the AMF has a lot of questions concerning unequal age marriages. Maria Merkulova have tried to answer the most interesting ones and a little clarified the situation from the point of view of a science as psychology.
In CIS countries, many dream of the stamp in the passport for 20 years, while in Europe the picture is quite different. European women most often begin to think about marriage after 30 years. All over the world girls want to see the elect wealthy, confident, successful in your case. Peers young ladies almost never meet these requirements.
But older men have an apartment or house, car, savings in my Bank account, a job in which he has reached certain heights or even their own business. It is the desire to marry a worthy companion, able to provide the needs of his wife and his family, is often the main cause of such unions.
There arose a further question — why do so many girls do not hurry to legalize their relationship with a man who is much older and prefer to live with them in a civil marriage? The psychologist is sure that every woman wants certainty in life — get married, have a child. Very few of those who are satisfied with the position of concubine or mistress.
But many can't obtain from the chosen desired for different reasons. At the same time, they continue this relationship because I don't want to lose what already have at the moment or even stay the same.
Modern culture promotes the worship of a beautiful life. In social networks and at parties very young person boast to your friends with expensive handbags, luxury vacations, jewelry. This is not quite the right way they raise their self-esteem. That is why such couples can live together without being married — destroy your beautiful life don't want and easier to leave everything as it is.
Yeah, if you're a curious person and I appreciate the communication with an intelligent, with life experience people, the older man might be interested. But for such communication does not necessarily have sexual contact and, moreover, to marry a man who is older than you three times. Perhaps many do not understand.
Psychologist Maria Merkulova mentioned the popular theory which States that a woman subconsciously wants to see his father. It turns out, it happens and usually those girls, who have had strained relations with the Pope, or which are raised by a single mom. In this case, she may unconsciously seek satisfaction of the need in love with the older man.
The young guys are not able to provide the kind of fatherly love, because they themselves want to be loved. But a man may answer queries of a girl and treat her not only with men but also with fatherly love. It is even so that love these men is not directed to children and grandchildren, and the young lovers that very wrong. But it's their life and condemn anyone should not be.
Another common variant is a Union of a middle-aged teacher with a student. Such relationships are not uncommon, as for the young woman teacher originally is a status person. It works the same way as in the case of the relationship of the Secretary and Directors or doctors and nurses.
In a relationship with a teacher anything can happen and without vested interest, but simply because of the need for girls to fall in love. In the cycle of everyday training is not always time to their peers and play, and to love and to be loved want. Therefore, the object of and becomes a teacher, which comes in the monotony of life and makes it brighter.Finally, the psychologist answered another important question — how stable are marriages in which the husband is much older than wife. Maria Merkulova believes that in this case the age difference does not play a big role. In that case, if the old man asserts itself at the expense of the young wife, then a few years later he would leave her and again I find myself young.
Can get away from her husband and the woman, if she dreams about the child, but the companion strongly against, as is their children and grandchildren. But if such conflicts are not a couple, then they all can be well. Everything depends on the age difference of husband and wife, but only a specific situation. Not to say that marriage between a twenty-year will last longer than between twenty and sixty.
It is quite another thing, when marriages between people with big age difference conclude, following the religious laws or traditions. Often this practice takes a very ugly shape and in this case, the percentage of unhappy unions are at a catastrophically high.