Why Asking Couples When They Have Children Is One Of The Worst Questions We Can AskBy Vika https://pictolic.com/en/article/why-asking-couples-when-they-have-children-is-one-of-the-worst-questions-we-can-ask
About 50 million people worldwide have fertility problems and are struggling to have a baby. Asking a couple when they have children is not only disrespectful but also an invasion of their privacy.
We believe it is wrong to ask couples when they are planning to have a baby for several reasons. Here are some of them.
1. Just because you had a child at 25 does not mean that everyone should do it.
One of the most common pregnancy myths is that women over 35 cannot get pregnant normally. And if they are lucky, their child will not be healthy. In fact, as long as a woman has an egg, she can get pregnant and her baby will be fine. After 30, the risks increase by only 5%. The best time to have a baby is when you are ready for it, not when society expects you to.
2. About 50 million people worldwide suffer from infertility.
According to the report, about 15% of the world's population is struggling with infertility, and this number is only growing. The number of miscarriages has also increased.
3. There are other factors that influence a couple's decision to have a child.
Of course, infertility plays an important role, but there are other factors to consider before having a baby. The couple's financial condition, the strength of their bond, their health, career goals, and so on.
4. No need to remind anyone that their biological clock is ticking, they are knowledgeable.
There is nothing wrong with having a baby through IVF or any other means when they cannot get pregnant naturally. Women do not need to be reminded of their "biological clock", they are fully aware of this.
5. Some people just don't want children, and that's okay.
Just like having a child, one must also normalize the absence of a child. It is wrong to ask couples who don’t want children why they don’t want a child, or to convince them "you will regret it later." Understand that just as you have your opinion, they have theirs, and you shouldn't impose your views on anyone.
6. You don't know what others are going through.
To summarize, it is wrong to ask someone when they will have a baby. The couple may have relationship problems, struggle with infertility, miscarriage, or not wanting to have a baby for personal reasons. You just never know what a person is going through behind closed doors. Stay away from questions that might cause someone to go to bed with tears in their eyes. Be understanding and kind.