What is the difference between a prostitute and a kept woman? The candid story of a girl who lives with an elderly Arab
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Alla has been living in the EMIRATES for two years as a kept woman. It all started with the usual dating via Tinder, but after four dates, the young Belarusian woman received an offer to move to the UAE. Her sponsor is a 60-year-old Arab man who has a wife and three children. The man is the owner of a business related to airlines, so he can afford to pay for Alya's housing and provide monthly finances – the girl receives $ 4,000 (about 265 thousand rubles) a week, but says that this is now, and at the beginning of her "career" the amount was two less.
And sometimes Belarusians even manage to earn money with their own work:
But Alla not only has fun and lives for her own pleasure in the UAE. For two years of life on the content of the Belarusian learned two languages (Spanish and French), became well versed in art, dances ballroom dancing and reads a lot of literature. The girl gets an education, although for this she has to fly to her homeland twice a year:
The girl's parents are ordinary representatives of the working class. My mother worked at a state-owned enterprise, but as soon as Alla began to support the family, she went on a well-deserved vacation. My father still works as a mechanic. The girl does not tell her parents about her "trade" – they think that Alla works at the enterprise, receiving a salary from the employer. The relationship between an Arab man and a Belarusian girl, indeed, is more like a business relationship:
Alla herself does not hide the fact that she lives at the expense of a man. The girl does not want to show her face, not because of shame, but because of the marital status of her sponsor.
The girl does not believe that she is engaged in something shameful, because, according to her, "the concept of "kept woman" is subjective. A woman, when on maternity leave, is also a kind of kept woman." In addition, the sponsor himself does not consider Alla a kept woman, but treats her as a versatile person with whom you can talk about intellectual topics and make love.
And Alla has something to compare with, because once in the UAE she met a Ukrainian woman who was engaged in prostitution. Her clients treated her harshly, as evidenced by the multiple abrasions on her hands. The prostitute was also a drug addict. Alla gave her $ 500 (about 33 thousand rubles) on the way home, the Ukrainian was able to break out of the vicious circle, return home to her five-year-old son and cancer-stricken mother and get a job in a coffee shop.
Alla says that at first it was very scary, but gradually life got into its usual rut, and the Belarusian realized that there was nothing to fear.
The kept woman does not look at the situation through rose-colored glasses, so she understands perfectly well that sooner or later this relationship will end. But he says that he will treat this as a termination of the contract with his employer. The Belarusian woman is sure that she will easily find another job, and while there is such an opportunity, she invests money in education, jewelry and puts finances in reserve.
Despite her position, Alla is very sympathetic to feminists. And her sponsor supports her opinion on this issue:
As for the girl's friends, when they found out what Alla was doing, they began to spread gossip and unpleasant rumors about her. But the kept woman still believes in female friendship and solidarity.
Maybe it's all about envy, because not every girl can become a kept woman. You need to constantly develop, invest in yourself, be able to show empathy to your interlocutor. And, according to Alla, not every woman is ready to give up the image of a "scandalous woman".
Alla has repeatedly encountered stereotypes about intimate life – after all, the age difference between them is quite large. But the girl says that their sex is the most ordinary, the same as that of all other people.
Many also write to her that she actually has a young lover. Alla denies such accusations, but does not rule out the fact that someday she may have another man:
In the meantime, the girl enjoys life, preferring to take everything from it, invests in herself and brings up positive qualities in herself: