The story of a large from Odessa Oksana Kobylecki, after the birth five twins betrayed husbandPictolic
Unfortunately, the cases where the family breaks up after the birth of a child, it is not uncommon. Most often this is due to the fact that the woman begins to give her husband less attention, and that, in turn, suffers from a lack of bright emotions and the emergence of new worries. The Governor Oksana Kobylecka, the mother of six children, five of whom were twins, faced with the betrayal of her husband at the moment when his support was especially needed her.
First child — a daughter Alice, was born to Oksana and her husband Sergei in 2013. Problems in a young family began almost immediately after the appearance of the baby and their main reason was financial difficulties. Over time, between spouses there was a critical misunderstanding, Sergei began to drink, and the situation got worse every day.
Perhaps the pair needed to leave already, but Oksana's mother set up the daughter of that family need to fight to the last and her husband need to re-educate. "Who are you going to need better because you will not find. It is impossible that the child was left without a father," she said to Oksana and she endured her husband's indifference and his drinking.
One day drunk he called his mother to complain about the hardships of life, and between her and the son-in-law there was a serious conversation. After this an attempt was made to revive the relationship and for some time it seemed that everything changed for the better.
At this time, Oksana learned that pregnant again. It was a surprise for the couple, as to a family crisis with conceiving second child nothing worked. The unexpected news that the woman took it as a sign from above — it's not for nothing she gave Sergei a second chance, and now it's gonna be all good.
When the doctor during the ultrasound told Oksana that she is expecting five kids, the woman was in shock. She didn't believe it, but on the 12 week re-examination confirmed the news. Experts immediately warned the woman to bear five healthy children is almost impossible — they are born premature, weak and sick.
Therefore, Kobylecki suggested to have an abortion, or at least reduction, when sacrificed multiple embryos to increase the chances of others. But Oksana refused these two options and decided for myself, that's her cross to carry and it needs to end.
Sergey has supported his wife all the time and said it was a gift and should be appreciated in spite of inevitable difficulties. But the mother-in-law was not thrilled with the news and repeatedly called her mother Oksana, that you persuaded her daughter to have an abortion.
Because at this point, Oksana was already 14 weeks officially get rid of the pregnancy has been impossible, but Sergei's mother is not stopped. She was even willing to take on all the hassle associated with this operation from the search of the doctor, ending with the payment.
Oksana's pregnancy passed without any complications and she tried to do all the harder chores. Even when the doctors ordered her to bed rest, the expectant mother continued to cook, wash and clean the apartment. In this difficult time relationship with her husband deteriorated — he became nervous and rude, and once even pushed his pregnant wife, why she almost fell.
Fearing for the future kids, Kobylecka Packed my things, took my daughter Alice, and temporarily moved in with my mother, who is happy shelter my daughter, but also became an intermediary in her communion with her husband. Mother Oksana all their forces put to help a pregnant daughter and grandchild. In addition, she worked a lot, as there was a large expense, and Sergei much hope not.
Oksana wanted to bring the twins to at least 32 weeks, but occurred after 30. When an unusual woman in labor was brought to the hospital, the doctor was desperate and literally banging his head against the wall — this day in the clinic had many women requiring urgent care, and then there was a difficult birth, with whom he first encountered in his practice.
For cesarean section, which is inevitable in such cases, it was necessary to collect equipment throughout Odessa. In the hospital five organized resuscitation teams, one for each kid. Fortunately, everything went well and with 9:27 to 9:34 am Oksana gave birth to Sasha, Dasha, Vlad, Denis and David.
All the kids even though he was premature, had no serious health problems and Oksana felt absolutely happy. She realized that all the difficulties still ahead, but could not and assume that it expects soon.
After birth, a woman and her five kids stayed in the hospital for two months. At discharge, the city authorities gave the family a new five-room apartment and founded a Fund that was intended to help a large family in financial terms.
Oksana was reunited with Sergei and the husband tried to convince her that he is happy to be a father of five unique children. In the first days after discharge, the woman was uncomfortable — she felt insecure without the support of doctors and nurses. But husband and mom quickly became involved in a cycle of worries and everything went back to normal.
Every three hours they passed the diaper changing, swaddling, washing and preparing the milk mixture. Family team worked so effectively that Oksana even had time for a NAP. Alas, Sergey had only a few weeks of caring — he began to complain that she gets very tired.
Husband refused to get up to kids during the night, as, according to him, was very exhausted during the day. He actually, besides work, was forced to go shopping and spend time and effort going to different instances, in connection with the acquisition of a new apartment.
Over time, things got worse — more recently seemed happy Sergei was irritable and the others began to rise. He was unhappy that he no longer cooking dinners with several courses that he was not paying attention that he is given different instructions. "A woman needs to do everything" — so began to speak to his wife in response to requests for assistance.
17 January 2017, exactly one year after the ultrasound,signaled the future birth of five babies, Sergey silently has collected all their belongings from the old house and new apartment and left the family to mom. Before leaving, he said that "tired of all this" and wants a divorce.
Oksana and her mother were shocked by the action of Sergei, but the time to despair they had. The twins turned six months and worries only increased. Oksana's mother is already not lived with the family of her daughter — she decided that everything was to normal and returned to work.
The family decided to help other people, but caring people. They are at their own expense hired a nanny for twins, to reduce the load on Oksana. The woman was finally able to think about your future. At the age of 37, she began to implement what was planned before this life.
The woman learned to drive a car, presented by the President. On the right she passed 19 years ago, but the opportunity to learn driving and she was not. Now she could move without restriction and to take the twins.
But problems did not leave a large family — children Oksana started to get sick one after the other. The kids have infected each other different infections and this occurred almost continuously in a circle. Oksana with the kids for a few months spent in the hospital and remembers this period as a nightmare.
In this situation, not even time to issue a formal divorce and the issues was resolved only when the twins turned a year. Sergei did not participate in their children's lives and does not even pay child support. After leaving the family, he went ahead and did a 3rd group of disability, so it has not been claims.
At the hearings he focused on his illness and trying to convince everyone that it is not able to help their children with money:
Now all I see six children from his father is 800 UAH. (about 2200 rubles). They transfer 50% of his disability pension. But contributions started recently — for a long time Sergei ignored the payment of child support, citing the fact that he did not know that children after a divorce need help.
Very unfortunate father unofficially working and gets a good salary, but to prove it almost impossible. Sergei did not even hide from his ex-wife that works, he openly tells Oksana that can't see children because of their employment.
But she too regrets that her ex-husband comes to visit with him and his mom she is regularly seen at the trials. The woman still hope to recover from Sergey for a long time the alimony and to solve the issue with a statement from his five-room apartment provided by the state.
Former mother-in-law does not want to hear about grandchildren and openly tells Oksana that she has "the disabled" and up to six strangers to her there is no case. Health the twins don't really matter — due to the fact that they were born prematurely, babies, problems with the immune system, eyesight and respiratory system.
Oksana believes that the poor health of her twins — it's only a matter of time and they will soon outgrow. But while many children the mother has to devote a lot of time Hiking in and out of hospitals. Unique mother of twins constantly worried that over time the list of ailments of kids is not replenished with new items. She says she will not rest until they become adults.
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