Female friendship does not happen? Three writer told how a fight with a friend can be worse than divorcePictolic
Almost every woman has a best friend with whom she shares the secrets, sorrows, and joys. Unfortunately, it is not always a close friendship lasts forever.
This year will premiere a groundbreaking film "Animals" (Animals), depicting the complexity of relationships between women. Many girls after a quarrel with my best friends turning to psychotherapists for help. Three writer openly talked about the emotions after breaking up with girlfriends. According to them, these life situations to survive was harder than parting with a beloved man.
Read on three stories about women's gullibility and cruel betrayal.
A breakup is always very painful tolerated, whether it's love or friendship. But it so happened that the theme of separation friends paid much less attention than the tears of lovers. However, the pain of the betrayal of a friend is no less acute than the betrayal of a loved one.
So the creators of the new film "Animals" (Animals) promise that their movie will be a real discovery. The creation story the writer was inspired by her own story of friendship. The film reflects the real complexity of female relationships.
Therapists note that the number of women who come to them because of the problems in the friendship is constantly growing. It destroys the stereotype that friendships are tougher and stronger than romantic. Now there is a tendency for late marriage and single life so looking for women have best friends of the emotional and practical support, which would have to receive from men.
Three of the writer shared the feeling of emptiness and pain they experienced after an argument with my best friends. What really hurt more: the loss of a friend or loved one?
Lori was friends with Vicki for 20 years. They met through a mutual friend and immediately found myself a lot in common: both were interested in what motivates people in life and loved to gossip. When Lori was going through a divorce with her husband, best friend supported her and was happy when she got married for the second time.
For Mrs. Graham's friendship with Vicki was a life-saving straw among everyday storms. Best friend opened her eyes to many things, especially in relation to men.
But over time, views Wiki have become more feminist and sharp. Laurie was the son and grandson, and she did not share the opinion of the best friend of men as insignificant beings.
The gap between friends occurred in 2004. Together with friends they were sitting on a summer evening at a table and drinking wine. Was lively conversation, but Vicky suddenly said goodbye and Laurie thought something hurt her. When the writer asked her friend what the matter was, she replied that everything is in order. After this incident Vicki never called. Lori was very upset and kept replaying last night with my best friend, to understand what could ruin their relationship.
For writer the end of a long friendship became very painful. Lori said that it was easier to survive a divorce after the first marriage than to stop talking with her best friend. This happened so quickly and unexpectedly, and destroyed all her beliefs about female friendship.
Several years later, Lori met ex-girlfriend in the Parking lot near the supermarket. For a moment the writer froze, thinking to come or not, but an inner voice told her to leave it as is. Vicki left, and life continued. Later Laurie heard that she moved to the other end of the country, not leaving no new address.
Since that ill-fated dinner, it took 15 years, but the writer still remembers ex-girlfriend. She crossed that stage, but believes that it is worth to ask a specialist to finally deal with this problem.
Nilufer believes that the level of trust and intimacy between friends is often higher than between lovers. When a close relationship ends, becomes very painful.
The girl met Louise at school when they were 12 years old. Both sincerely supported each other in everything and over the next two decades passed through a lot together: first kisses, University, get started. For Nilufer best friend was like a sister.
In 2010, the writer moved to London, where she lived with her boyfriend in a rented apartment. The pair barely had enough money to pay the utilities and rent. Louise at that time successfully built a career in Cheshire and was able to buy a big house. Nilufer previously believed that the difference in financial position is irrelevant in friendship, but it was the opposite.
When friends husbands was found on Christmas day, Louise and her husband are constantly talking about the latest model of Audi, which they were going to get a Golden credit card, and Nilufer saw that her best friend has changed. She felt that between them formed the abyss.
A few months Nilufer found a tumor in his chest. Had to do a biopsy, and she immediately wrote to my best friend. Louise did not answer, and when the writer asked if she hurt her, waved, she just had no time. For Nilufer it was a painful blow.
After some time, Nilufer again tried to restore the friendship. Louise invited her to his new apartment for the weekend. Girlfriends having fun, laughing and dancing as if nothing had happened. They are not talking about the fight and Neil thought that their relationship become again as before. But after that meeting Louise never wrote and never called.
For a writer, this gap was a real tragedy. She still ponders about the fate of his former girlfriend. When we are parting with loved ones, people sympathize and try to reassure us, but when we are talking about the collapse of friendship, everything is different. Nilufer had to realize that not every friendship lasts forever.
When Lily's best friend asked Kirsty to be a bridesmaid at the wedding, the girl was delighted. They knew each other from school and within ten years we were living through the UPS and downs of adolescence: a quarrel with the boys, disorders in families and the pain after the death of the grandparents.
When they were 20, both met my love, got engaged and planned the wedding. It was supposed to bring them closer even more, but was cut off. It all began with Lily's bachelorette party. She wanted to make it abroad and hang out there for a few days. The bride asked Kirsty to organize everything, and she gladly agreed.
The girls agreed that all resulted in the amount of 350 pounds (28 000) per person, and Kirsty made the order. But the organization of the bachelorette party gradually began to emerge from under the control of miss Hall. In all cases started meddling mother of the bride, who had their own ideas about the conduct of the parties. Suddenly Lily from a good and honest girlfriend turned into a demanding and criticizing.
The bride booked a trial wedding make-up, without notifying best friend. Kirsty couldn't come, because they have that evening was a family celebration, and Lily got mad at her and called a "hindrance". When friend was at work and couldn't reply to messages, the future bride, without having planned the wedding with other friends behind Kirsty.
It was the biggest disappointment in life Kirsty. It is still bitterly recalls ex-girlfriend.
It hurts to see when a loved one destroys the relationships that have built over the years. But a negative attitude aggravates. Sometimes it's better for happiness to break all ties, even with the best of friends to start a new life.
American writer Anne Lindbergh once said that men treat their male friends like a soccer ball, which they throw anywhere and anyhow, but it is not torn. Women are obsessed with their female friendship is like a crystal vase, and if it falls, it shatters into small pieces. Better not try to pick her up — still it will not last long.
True friendship helps to survive even the most difficult of life's problems. Friend gave the girl suffering from breast cancer a party with a farewell bust it to be able to overcome the fear and complexes. I hope these girls will never run a black cat.