A friend in trouble will not leave: three friends for whom their communication is more expensive than relationships with their husbandsBy Pictolic https://pictolic.com/en/article/a-friend-in-trouble-will-not-leave-three-friends-for-whom-their-communication-is-more-expensive-than-relationships-with-their-husbands
Let them say that there is no female friendship, but three British women know that they will not exchange their communication for anything. They are happily married, but they claim to be more open with each other than with their spouses. According to a recent study, every second woman in the UK trusts her best friend more than her husband. Find out why Wendy, Robbie and Karen love spending time together much more than with their families.It turns out that real female friendship exists. Some ladies appreciate her so much that they would rather spend their free time with their friends than with their husbands. Despite the fact that many British women are happily married, they are more likely to share secrets and openly talk heart to heart with their girlfriends than with their second halves.
Psychologist Hannah Martin says that marital relationships cannot give everything a woman's soul needs. Men are not always able to understand the special moments in a woman's life — for example, what she feels during pregnancy or menopause. Husbands tend to solve the problem sooner, and ladies sometimes need to be listened to and sympathized with.
Three best friends - Wendy, Robbie and Karen - told us why they value their friendship. Each of them has a family and a loving spouse, but they will never refuse to communicate with each other.
Karen Williams, 45, lives in Hampshire with her 46-year-old husband Peter. The woman especially needed the support of her friends in 2013, when her father died. And although her husband was always there, it was the sympathy of her friends that helped the woman to survive the grief.
The three British women met in February 2009 at a seminar where they were put in one room, and since then have become inseparable. Karen has been married for 15 years, but she can't always share the most intimate things with her husband. With their friends, they openly talk about any topic - from sex to menopause. Robbie and Wendy are older than her, so they often help with valuable advice.
Karen says she and Robbie and Wendy have a lot more in common than they do with her husband. Nevertheless, female friendship helps to strengthen marriage. Peter has nothing against such a close connection of his wife with her friends, because they can often understand and comfort her better than he can.
Wendy Wyatt, 55, lives with her 61-year-old husband Chris and two daughters in Hampshire. She often turns to her friends for sympathy, not to her husband. Robbie and Karen are always ready to listen to her and support her in difficult moments of life. There is complete trust between them.
Wendy can talk about the sore and with Chris, but it is difficult for a husband to look at the same topic from different angles, as women are able to do. Ladies have a much larger stock of emotional and soothing words than men.The British woman says that their friendship is at the ideal stage of life - at the age of 40 - 50 years. There is no rivalry between them, but only support and mutual understanding reigns. Wendy can let off steam in the company of her beloved friends, and then return to her family and adjust her mood.
In 2017, Chris got cancer. Robbie and Karen were always there, listening to Wendy and helping their family cope with the problem. The spouse does not mind that his other half spends a lot of time with girlfriends. He believes that only women can give his wife good advice, and is grateful to them for the support that friends provided to Wendy during his illness.
53-year-old Robbie Jerram lives with 50-year-old husband Alan in Southampton. She has four children from her first marriage, and she felt isolated from society, raising children and working at home. The woman felt loneliness and longing until she met Karen and Wendy.
After her divorce from her first husband in 1999, Robbie raised the children herself. Friends gradually faded into the background, and eventually the connection with them was completely interrupted. The woman married Alan in 2005, and a few years later met Karen and Wendy. The British woman was so longing for female friendship that their acquaintance became a breath of fresh air for her.For Robbie, meeting her friends was like the beginning of an affair: she felt the same thrill as in the first weeks of a relationship with a man. After meeting Karen and Wendy the Briton has learned to look at life in a new way. When her father died in 2010, her friends supported her like no other.
Women gather at least once a month. When Robbie sees her 70-year-old retired mother going on a cruise with her friends, she knows that she and her friends will do exactly the same in a few decades. For Robbie's husband, Alan, this female friendship is a real relief. He knows that his wife has someone to share special things with, which she cannot tell him about. Communication with friends strengthens their family relationships.
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