5 dangerous periods of marriage: how to survive?Pictolic
The family ship often gets into storms. This happens in different periods, for which you can prepare and successfully pass the test. 5 dangerous periods of marriage: how to survive?
Family life is a difficult test. And, it turns out, it also has its own time intervals. Dangerous periods of marriage, according to experts, come at 8 months, 2.5 years, 4,7,12 years. It is at these moments that the ship of the family can sink into the stormy ocean of passions and misunderstandings. But family psychologists and coaches are sure that if you prepare, you can handle it!
8 months: habituation
When the flair, romance, and passion of the first months of marriage subsides, partners begin to make amazing discoveries. Turns out your spouse isn't that incredible after all. We begin to pay attention to shortcomings that we had not noticed point-blank before. Moreover, this discovery falls like snow on the head. According to psychologists, at this time it is better to immediately confess to your partner your bad habits, true goals, and hobbies.
2.5 years: comfort
After 2.5-3 years of marriage - no matter civil or official - the family is overwhelmed by a new wave of indignation. Romance is almost completely out of relationships. The desire to go on dates, and to dress beautifully disappears and you don’t want sex so much anymore. To survive this moment, it is necessary for both partners, as they say, to turn on. Compliment each other, talk, quarrel, go to a cafe: there you will not be able to blame each other and scream. Try not to "kill" your wife or husband with the most caustic words.
4 years: apathy
Family life turns into a boring, insipid routine. Partners know everything about each other, there is nothing new or unexpected. Moreover, the desire to develop relations does not arise at all. It seems, well, where else? At this time, it is advisable not to let everything take its course. If you cannot cope together, connect with a psychologist.
7 years: routine
By this period, both accumulate enormous fatigue from everyday issues, children, and problems. There is no joy or inner happiness. Here you need to seriously talk with your spouse and outline a plan for overcoming the crisis. Perhaps you should plan a trip together?
12 years old: crisis in crisis
At this time, each of the spouses is experiencing their own sorrows of middle age, making a reassessment of their achievements and successes. Many people remember their real dreams, and here it is important not to stop the spouse. Give each other a chance to catch up. Even if a new passion or hobby seems like an absolutely meaningless event. During this period, it is more important than ever to support each other. In this, for example, eft-therapy will help.