5 signs that a man has become a victim of financial abuse by his wife

Money is not the main thing in life and everyone knows it. Nevertheless, most would agree that having money gives us a sense of confidence and peace. Such a common phenomenon in modern families as financial abuse not only causes quarrels, but also deprives motivation. How do you determine that you have been a victim of economic violence at home?

In simple and understandable language, financial abuse in the family is an old traditional model of family relations. With her, the spouse gives all the money to his half, who decides how and when to spend it. But injustice is often masked, so we offer 5 signs with which the secret becomes clear.

In most families, both husband and wife work. Both bring their salaries to the family, but most often the money ends up with the wife. A woman withdraws an envelope with her earnings or simply controls her husband's bank card. There are many ways to take all the resources of the family into one hand, and wives own them perfectly.

At best, the husband owns the hard-earned funds for only a few hours. At worst, he doesn't see them at all. When trying to restore justice, the husband receives a powerful rebuff. He is defeated by numerous arguments, not always clear to him, but usually very emotional.

This feature is best illustrated by an example. Imagine that your husband has been cherishing the dream of buying a new spinning rod for the beginning of the fishing season for several months. The financial situation of the family allows you to make such a purchase. But when a husband tells his wife about his desire, he meets with a refusal.

The spouse motivates the purchase ban by the fact that a new fishing rod is not an essential thing, that it is pampering and, in general, there are already a dozen of them in the garage. At the same time, a woman needs a new dress for a corporate party and it is a much more important purchase. That is, the money earned by the husband does not belong to him at all.

The modern world is designed in such a way that you can't do without money in it. Travel, lunches, cigarettes and other "little things of life" require that the head of the family has at least some money. Within a month, a man receives funds from his wife under strict reporting. About any, even trifling calculations, he must report to his beloved.

And woe to him if the money was planned for some expenses, but spent on others. Such moments end in scandal and loss of trust. By the way, it is not necessary for women to report to their husbands in spending. At best, it is customary to simply put the spouse in front of a fait accompli.

As you know, Ostap Bender knew 401 ways of "relatively honest" withdrawal of money from citizens. Modern women can put the great combinator to shame, as their ways are endless. The simplest way is to force her husband to get into debt and loans in order to constantly keep him "in good shape" and easily pump out money. In such cases, the wife makes purchases, but the husband deals with debt and interest.

A common combination is also considered to be the way: "Let's exchange your apartment bought before marriage for a new one!". It often happens that a new apartment, as a jointly acquired property in marriage, has to be divided. Sometimes, during a divorce, the husband remains "with his nose" at all and then thinks for a long time about how he could be so stupid.

Usually, pressure on a man from a woman is carried out according to a simple scenario. He is simply convinced that he does not know how to handle money. Of course, finances should be in safe hands and everyone knows such a person – this is a beloved wife.

Another not too honest technique is comparison. As an example, they cite other husbands who earn more, but at the same time give their wife every penny. In general, this is the same "son of my mother's friend" who grew up. Of course, not only emotions are used, but also lies – any means will do here. We can say that with financial abuse in the family, the most ordinary levers of psychological influence are used, old as the world, but still operating.

It is well known that financial pressure can lead to a serious quarrel and even separation. Therefore, it is important to be able to reduce the intensity of passions. One Italian, unable to defeat his wife in a verbal duel, simply left home and walked 400 km. During the trip, he cooled down, and his wife repented.